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Being Forgotten?
I've got this amazing friend, John. I always joke around with him and everything with him and my best friend, Deanna, over the computer, but when it comes to actually hanging out.. it's a different story. While Deanna and I constantly are together, John only seems to want to talk to us when it's either conveniant for him, or when it's not in person.
For example, John, Deanna, our friend Alex and I all went to the movies to hang out. Well, Deanna, Alex and I all had a great time. We talked, laughed and everything, but John seemed to just completly be concentrated on the movie only, and when he wasn't, he was texting with some of his other friends. He pretty much didn't talk to us all until one of his newer friends met up with us at the therter..
He has made all these new friends, and I'm fine with him having friends, but he seems to be forgetting Deanna and I. He also seems to be more arrogant, because all of these girls happen to be alot prettier, and more popular than us.
He's just seemed to change.. and I really miss the old John, who I used to be able to joke around with, not having to worry about confrontation.
And I'm not flipping out all of a sudden, either.. This has been an on-going thing, and I've talked to him about it a few times. I don't pin blame or anything, but he's still not getting that he's not being the kindest person lately..
Please tell me what I should do.. I know not to push him away or anything, but.. what do I do to get everything like it used to be?
Thank you in advance, Sam<33
15/f.
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This could just be a phase. Let him know that it bothers you and you feel like he's forgetting you. If he doesn't respond, let him go for now. With any luck, he'll realize that he misses you guys, and if not...well, better to have lost a friend than have someone who's not a real friend.
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Hey,
I think right now that your friend is propably just going threw a phase which hopefully he will get out of but you just need to try to remind him of the good times you use to have. Also to show him that your not trying to hold him back why don't you ask if some of his new friends want to come along to show him that your supportive and you want to be friends with his friends to.
Maura
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I know that you want your old friend back, but sometimes people just change...believe me, i know what you're going through...
However, if John is really your friend, he'll always come back to you...but for now, maybe you should just let him be.
Don't worry, you'll get through this...don't give up hope!!
Hope i've helped you!
*~*Em
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Honestly, I'd try to just let him be who he is. If he seems that INCREDIBLY bad, then maybe you should give him a break. YOur friend, Deanna will probably still be there, so maybe give him that break?
If this dosen't sound good, try to talk to him about EXACTLY what's bothering you. Don't go around everything, hit it straight on.
If he refuses to listen, just let him move on, but make sure you're there for him when he still needs you.
Kat
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I've had a similar situation..
Well If you've talked to him about it and he still doesn't get the memo then maybe he has changed and moved on.
You can't change time. Maybe you liked the way he was before but you can't change him back either.
People change and you have to deal with that. I mean you still have really good friends and I'm pretty sure their will be more to come.
But since he's not understanding or seeming to care about how you feel about him acting like that then you should just move on.
Telling him over and over and over is not gonna make anything better since he's hear it before so it's not like it's gonna get any better.
So just move on for now and try to think about more important things. I'm sure everything will go well for you.
Good luck. =]
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