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Ex boyfriend is finally ready for a relationship but not wit
I'm 17 years old, and my ex boyfriend is 15. We went out for a little bit and then my boyfriend broke up with me because he said he wasn't ready for a relationship and that we may get back together when he's ready for a relationship in the future. We'll a month went by and today me and him were talking about things and he told me he has been doing alot of thinking lately and maybe wants a girlfriend. First, I thought maybe he wants to get back together with me and then after he's like well.. i want to ask you something and tell you that i met another girl and she wants a relationship and i like her but i dont want to hurt you because i broke up with you cause i wasnt ready for a relationship and now i am and i dont have strong feelings for you anymore so would it bother you if i went out with her. It truely hit me like a brick and I told him "well what i dont understand is that why you would break up with me and then just get over me so quickly and now when your ready for a relationship and you dont want to be with me anymore?" after he looked sad and guilty and just stopped talking about it. my question is.. what should i try to say to him? and do you think i should try to get him back before he goes out with that girl? Thanks in advice.
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There's always other guys. You should let him go. It takes a while to get over a guy but the initial shock is the hardest. Try to be happy for his new relationship (as odd as that sounds), so he can let go of some of his guilt.
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You shouldn't try getting him back. Clearly he wants someone else and he's not going to go back out with you anytime soon. He seemed to be very concerned as a friend to ask you if it would bother you, but you probably shouldn't question what happened in the past with you both. It just gets you hurt and it puts him in an uncomfortable position.
What you need to do is tell him that if he's ready to date again, then go date again. Even if you don't want him to. You can't hold this guy back from dating new girls as much as you'd like to.
Listen, he may not have moved on a fast as it looks like here. He might be just dating again to date and have a girlfriend. But its time for you to move on too and you will in time. Just don't try to beg for this guy or anything. I promise, it gets you nowhere except rejection and making you feel like crap for doing so.
-TheTeenGirl
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It seems like he still likes and respects you as a friend at least. Try to appreciate that he even told you- he didn't need to! I honestly don't think there's anything you can do to try to get him back. Tell him the truth- that it hurts you, and that you think you guys deserve another chance, but if he wants to date other people, it's his choice. Sadly there's nothing you can do to stop him. Just know that there are plenty of mature guys out there ready for a relationship, and that's what you deserve, not someone who doesn't even know what he wants.
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