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He cheated on me.
I've been going out with this guy about a month now. We like each other very much. Just two days ago he was telling me how I'm the only one for him and how he likes me so much. Yesturday I found that he got drunk three days ago and had sex with some dirty girl from school. He claims that he remembers nothign of it. He apologized many times. I don't really know what i should do. I still like him a lot but he still went too far with that girl. I dont know whether i should forgive him and go back with him, forgive him and just stay friend, or completely shut him out. And it would be weird at school because i see him for every class. He's 17 and I'm fourteen by the way.
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i can put myself in your situation & in my opinion this is a tough one.
even though he was drunk, he still shouldn't have cheated on you, especially through sex. kissing/hugging is a different story.
by any means, my best idea is just to see if he is going to continue to get drunk & cheat on you.
if you think he won't do this again, then don't break up with him. but if you think he may, then go ahead & save your heartbreak.
if you really love him, you'll know what to do.
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Wow. That last sentence changed my point of view in a split second. Forgive him - because we should all be forgiving people to make this world a better place than it is now. Stay with him? Absolutely not. You are fourteen years old - you don't need any of this. Stick to more important things, like your grades, family, close friends, etc. Really, if you keep going on it's bound to get worse and really leave you with the bad impression that all relationships will turn out like that. He did go too far, drop him. Forget about him and move on. It's only been a month, and he is much older than you, so it's nothing too serious, no offense. You deserve better. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Okay I'm sorry sweetie but he is a jerk.
Cheating is horrible...drunk or not.
The guy I like has a girlfriend who cheated on him like that only not drunk and everyone is so dissappointed he's with her still. Anybody who would cheat would most definatley do it again.
Move on...it really hurts I know but it's the best thing that you can do for yourself...unless you feel you guys REALLY have something.
Sometimes ackward is how it has to be.
Good luck.
XOXO
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Dump him.See,when you are drunk,you DO have control of 75% what you do.So he DID do that because he wanted a good memory about being drunk and he might like that girl.Then again he might of not been drunck at all...
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He's just looking to get some, just like me, and younger girls are considered target pratice for the thing, because they simply just want to date older men thinking it means they're more mature. Get over him, dump him, he won't even care. It's sad, but true.
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no matter how much you like him he is a cheater. Most guys like this are out to get down your pants and that is all, they dont really love you, and your not the only one for them...but they would enjoy having sex with you, and if you aren't giving it to them someone else will...
i rule option one out...going back to him is a bad idea
staying friends is probably your best bet...
and not talking to him at all is another good one..
if you think you can handle being friends with someone you like..go for it...
but if not..than i would suggest shutting him out
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It's hard to really know what to do in a situation like this, but the most important thing to think about is how YOU feel. Not how bad he feels, or how much you like each other.... how does what he did make YOU feel?
In a situation like you're describing, I have to ask what he was doing drunk at 17. If he's the kind of guy who can't even respect the laws that say he's too young to drink, how can you expect that he'll respect your own personal boundaries and feelings? My ex claimed the same thing, but it didn't change the fact that he did it. And it didn't change the fact that he got inebriated enough to NOT REMEMBER. That's not a point in his favor, hon... That's a BAD thing.
I'd say dump him. Yes, you'll have to see him at school, but you know what? So will everyone else, and they'll know WHY you did it. Don't bother to give him enough attention to MAKE it weird. Go to class, pay attention to the droning ancient dinosaur at the front, and then gravitate toward your own friends. Don't let his mistake and the confines of high school dictate that YOU must stay in an uncomfortable relationship.
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