Member Since: October 28, 2006
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Most of you who answered my last question about what to do because I found out my my friend (who's a guy)is smoking. Well, I talked to him about it today and he started yelling at me and saying that he didn't. So, now he won't talk to me. I don't want him mad at me, but I don't want him to be doing drugs either. Now what do I do about him? (link)
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There's a saying... "It's not my dog, I'm not taking it for a walk." It means simply that you can't be the answer to someone else's problem.
You've talked to him, told him you are concerned, that's all you can do as his friend. Just show him that his decisions for his life aren't going to affect how YOU feel, that you'll still be his friend, even if you don't approve of the behavior. It sounds to me like he got pretty defensive when you brought it up to him, maybe he's had other people mention it, or perhaps he feels guilty.
All you can do is be a friend. You can't be a parent, you can't be a conscience. Just a friend, and what you did, going to him, was a good move as a friend. He'll calm down. Just give him space and time.
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I've been going out with this guy about a month now. We like each other very much. Just two days ago he was telling me how I'm the only one for him and how he likes me so much. Yesturday I found that he got drunk three days ago and had sex with some dirty girl from school. He claims that he remembers nothign of it. He apologized many times. I don't really know what i should do. I still like him a lot but he still went too far with that girl. I dont know whether i should forgive him and go back with him, forgive him and just stay friend, or completely shut him out. And it would be weird at school because i see him for every class. He's 17 and I'm fourteen by the way. (link)
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It's hard to really know what to do in a situation like this, but the most important thing to think about is how YOU feel. Not how bad he feels, or how much you like each other.... how does what he did make YOU feel?
In a situation like you're describing, I have to ask what he was doing drunk at 17. If he's the kind of guy who can't even respect the laws that say he's too young to drink, how can you expect that he'll respect your own personal boundaries and feelings? My ex claimed the same thing, but it didn't change the fact that he did it. And it didn't change the fact that he got inebriated enough to NOT REMEMBER. That's not a point in his favor, hon... That's a BAD thing.
I'd say dump him. Yes, you'll have to see him at school, but you know what? So will everyone else, and they'll know WHY you did it. Don't bother to give him enough attention to MAKE it weird. Go to class, pay attention to the droning ancient dinosaur at the front, and then gravitate toward your own friends. Don't let his mistake and the confines of high school dictate that YOU must stay in an uncomfortable relationship.
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This is kind of nasty...but I think I have a bacterial infection in my vagina. Is there anyways i can get rid of this on my own without having to go to the doctor? And if i do have to go to the doctor will she just look at it real quick or take a long time? (link)
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It depends on what the infection might be. If it's a yeast infection, Monistat or the like can be used at home to avoid uncomfortable and embarrassing trips to the doctor. However, if you're not 100% SURE that's what it is, you should really go in.
Remember, as women, our "plumbing" is filled with potential problems. When we experience pain or discomfort, it is a sign from our bodies that something isn't right. Something bigger may be the problem. I would recommend going in, just to be safe. Most doctors will do a pelvic and a PAP, but if it IS a yeast infection, they can usually just tell by the latter. Expect exams to take anywhere from 5 minutes to 20, and then another 15-20 to wait for the immediate results.
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I'm only 13 but I want to have sex really bad, is that normal? (link)
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"Normal" is a word we've placed on ourselves that really has nothing to do with normal. If you feel that you are ready for sex, that's normal. If you feel that you want sex, that's normal. It's normal because you feel it.
Does that mean it's a good idea at your age? Not in my opinion... but then that's MY opinion. It doesn't change the fact that you feel that way.
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