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I asked the other question about my guy friend smoking.
Most of you who answered my last question about what to do because I found out my my friend (who's a guy)is smoking. Well, I talked to him about it today and he started yelling at me and saying that he didn't. So, now he won't talk to me. I don't want him mad at me, but I don't want him to be doing drugs either. Now what do I do about him?
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I think the best thing that you can do in this situation is at least try to talk to him. Don't get mad but just talk about it. It would be better than avoiding him and just let him do drugs, you are a good friend for caring, and you should definetly help him out.
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There's a saying... "It's not my dog, I'm not taking it for a walk." It means simply that you can't be the answer to someone else's problem.
You've talked to him, told him you are concerned, that's all you can do as his friend. Just show him that his decisions for his life aren't going to affect how YOU feel, that you'll still be his friend, even if you don't approve of the behavior. It sounds to me like he got pretty defensive when you brought it up to him, maybe he's had other people mention it, or perhaps he feels guilty.
All you can do is be a friend. You can't be a parent, you can't be a conscience. Just a friend, and what you did, going to him, was a good move as a friend. He'll calm down. Just give him space and time.
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