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My mother's reliability
16/F
Here it goes..kinda long. Thursday (Oct 28) I had a doctor's appointment at 3:15PM. I emailed my mom the weekend before telling her I had an appointment and she'd need to give me a checkout note for school so I could leave early. Thursday morning, I was about to leave for school (I was leaving later than usual) and I asked my mom if she had written a note for me. She replied, "I thought it was on Friday". I huffed and said, "It's a good thing I don't rely on you". I don't ask my mom to do much for me at all(I do: grocery shopping, cooking, and cleaning for myself; I also transport myself where ever I need to go). I told her I don't rely on her because I ask her to do so very little, yet she forgets to do it. However, I do ask for money from my parents to buy gas, clothes, food, etc. since I don't have a job(my parents told me not to get a job so I can concentrate on school). Now BOTH of my parents won't say much at all to me and I'm being stared at. What should I do about ALL of this?
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Apologize to your mother and get over yourself.
The financial obligations of her son to her grandchild are a bigger deal then a note excusing you from school. That is simply a fact of life.
Yeah, your mother could be considerate and more aware of you, but she is only human, and apparently she is an imperfect human being. All parents are imperfect and if you are so self-sufficient she might just trust you enough not to worry about the details of your life unless you bring them up.
You are angry with her and that is just fine, but her imperfections don't give you permission to say something that is only meant to hurt her. Saying something like "It's a good thing I don't rely on you." would be like her saying "Yeah, I forgot about that doctorâ??s appointment. It's a good thing I don't really give a damn about you."
It's mean. Pointlessly mean and hurtful, so apologize to her for saying that. I simply have no sympathy for teenagers who say mean things to their parents unless those parents are openly malicious. Yours aren't, they are just forgetful, and your statement makes you look just as insensitive, if not more so, then your mother.
Instead of hating your mother for this, learn from it. Next time write down what you need from her and leave it somewhere where she is sure to see it or remind her with enough time for her to do something about it, maybe send her an e-mail the night before with a friendly reminder. Sometimes in order to get what we need we must make the system idiot proof, if we fail to do that, it isnâ??t fair to blame others because our own communication style was flawed. E-mailing someone for something as simple as a note you donâ??t need for at least four days is almost certain to be forgotten. I certainly would have forgotten about it.
Iâ??m sorry to be so harsh on you darling, I certainly do understand your building frustration with this situation, but part of growing up and being truly self-sufficient it making sure you can get what you need from others. Another part is holding your tongue while frustrated so that you donâ??t say needlessly mean things, so apologize to your mother, discuss your frustration calmly, and try one of those other techniques next time to make everyoneâ??s life simpler.
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