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He freaked out.
I'm going to be a young mom, My boyfriend is my age too were both 18. We had many plans and everything was going fine, until he came over one day (Im living with my mom.) And he started ranting out on me, saying "I don't want a kid, I don't want to take care of it, I dont want to college, I cant handle this. Im not your boyfriend , tell your parents the baby isnt mine. Make you seem like a slut. Im not taking care of a baby its your fault." And so much more. Well that was 2 days ago. I've been crying for hours a day and I dont know what do to anymore. Do I call him? Should I call him? What should I say? They were his ideas and I liked them. But I need him, ALOT!
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Wow, he's a jerk and a spaz.
Seriously though, if I were you then I'd break up with him.
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Call him. Sit him down and talk to him. Find out what he wants. Come up with what you both want. There's always adoption if neither of you are ready for a baby. If theres anything else you need just let me know
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I think it would be best to talk to him about this first. Call him or have him meet you somewhere so you can have a mature talk. Sit him down and ask him what he really wants. If he wants this baby or not. And if he wants to step up and be a real father to this child. If he doesn't and he is still calling you down, leave him have his space. You do not deserve to be treated this way. Leave him think about this by himself. Some people have a very bad temper and they tend to say things they don't mean while fighting. Maybe if he has sometime to himself he'll cool down and realize what a bad person he was being.
I hate guys like this, though. I mean, it wasn't just you in the bed making the baby by yourself. So he should be a real man and step up to his responsibilities. If he wants to be a little child and be immature about this situation let him. He's the one who's going to miss out on his daughters' or sons' life and that is something you can NEVER get back. So if he wants to do something foolish and childish like that, let him. It'll be his entire fault in the end. Not yours, his.
Right now you need to look out for yourself and be around people who love and support you and this child. You need to stop worrying about him and focus more on yourself. It sounds like you're the one holding this together. It sounds like you do want the baby and you want what is best for it. This baby sounds like its going to have a great mother! If the dad doesn't want any part in this babies life, at least you know the baby will have a loving and caring mother. And you can be a father as well. It sounds like you're really mature and you're going to make this work, no matter what. Don't give up. I'm sure you'll pull through this all in the end. And once you have that baby in your arms, everything will be worth it. ♥
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You need to concentrate on yourself and the pregnancy. Be sure that you find people that support your decisions and will be encouraging for the months to come and beyond. Your boyfriend is bound to freak out and so are you, (although I personally think that girls mature faster and are in general less selfish than guys.) I would give him space and let him know when he does contact you, that this pregnancy and your body will not be controlled by his ranting. You will do what you feel is right, and looking for someone to blame at this point is useless. He will need to find his own way to deal with reality and he will. Whether or not he wants to be a father, and obviously you both did not do this on purpose, he will be legally responsible and morally to his child once he or she is born. You are not a "slut," and he knows that, but people say stupid things when they are upset. I would say, that you have cried enough over his immaturity, and you are done. Now is the time to take a deep breath and make plans for yourself with or without his approval. This is your life, your body and your pregnancy. If you choose to carry this baby to term, you can think about adoption or raising the child. Make sure you do what you think best after weighing all your options. God Bless!
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Yes you need to call him he's scared that he finally realized that he has a kid or going to.
like you said he was cool in the begining and he just freaked out i mean if he really didn't want it then he would have always been that way.
what he said he probably didn't mean and in my opinion keep the baby nothing is your fault he was mad.
so call him up explain ask question you need to let him know your there for him.
stay in there
-KikiJ
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I want to say that he's probably just realizing that he's going to be a father, but he definetly took it too far by what he was saying.
It's one thing to be stressed out from the thought of being a father soon, but that's honestly no excuse for saying to tell your parents that the baby isn't yours and make yourself look like a slut. You both got yourself stuck in this situation and therefore he is just as responsible.
I think that you should call him and ask him what's going on at least. And if he continues his ranting, then it's time to drag your parents into it to support you and your baby. I know you're an adult and you'll be able to take care of your baby, but if your boyfriend leaves you, then you will need help with dealing with all of it and it won't be easy. It would be very disrespectful and wrong to leave you like this.
But, my true opinion is that he might be stressing and that it's all just now hitting him. But he owes you an apology for sure and if he decides that he's sticking with what he said to you, then you shouldn't talk to him until he decides to step up and be a father and apologize to you.
-TheTeenGirl
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The things he said, he probablly didn't mean. I just don't think he's ready to be a dad and he's freaking out. You need to call him. Even though you didn't do anything wrong, you can't just leave things like that. Talk to him about it. He's scared and let him know that he's not going to be raising this child on his own.. you'll both have help.
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call him and cry while saying i want to spend the rest of my life with u and our son or daughter
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