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I'm afraid of being a bad mommy.
I'm only 2weeks pregnant. I'm a young expecting mom, But I have a great way to work this out.
I'm living with my boyfriend (He has a job & goes to college) and getting help from my parents and my boyfriends parents. Its all working out pretty good.
I clean houses as a little job, right now. My boyfriend doesn't want me to have a real job.
I'm already picking out names, and going to baby stores looking clothes, you know. Its early but its fun to hangout with my friends.
But I'm afraid of being a bad mom to this child.
What will this child think when it may find out I didn't want the them at first, That i needed help to raise them from my parents?
I should be able to raise a baby, I took the chances of getting pregnant by having sex.
its my fault.
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You have the normal "I have a lot of responsiblity to my child" anxiety. Most expecting mothers have doubts such as you. Pregnancy is a difficult adjustment. Having a good parental support system is a positive thing. Don't be ashamed that you need help from your parents, and the baby/child won't think anything of it. In a few years you will be doing it all on your own anyway.
Although having sex, and getting pregnant are tied together (obviously) not everyone who has sex is ready or able to care for a child. Don't consider it a "fault"...a child who is unplanned isn't automatically unwanted. When you need help don't be afraid to ask, and don't let pride get in the way.
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It doesn't sound like you are going to be a bad mom at all. You're out there picking out names for the baby and buying clothes for it. That right there shows that you have a good head on your shoulders and you want what is best for this baby. You're only 2 weeks pregnant and you're already going out of your way for this child. I think you're going to be an excellent mother and your boyfriend sounds like he's going to be a great father. That baby is going to have an amazing family to grow up with.
This child isn't going to get mad because your parents helped raised it. When this child gets older he/she will understand why you needed help and support from other family members. They'll realize you were so young and it was a hard job to do. Your child isn't going to hate you because of it, sweetie. You're going to be a great mom. So don't think differently. ♥
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The fact you're even thinking about this this deeply shows that you are certainly going to be a good mum because it sounds like you genuinely consider the best things for your baby and it barely even exists yet!
Every mother in the world worries at some point and to some extent whether they're going to be/ are a good mother or not, it's totally normal, but so long as you keep your child's best interests at heart you can't go too far wrong.
Secondly, no first time mum really completely knows how to look after a child by themselves- they need to be shown, helped and given time to get the hang of it. The only thing likely to arise from accepting help from your parents and boyfriend's parents is a tight, close-knit family for the child to grow up in and that's a good thing.
Thirdly lots and lots of babies are unplanned and lots of parents begin by wondering if they really want a child. A girl I knew was an accident and her parents used to say to her "yes, you were a mistake but you're the nicest mistake we ever made". She was actually pretty proud of this fact :).
It sounds like you and your boyfriend are being very responsible and it's great your boyfriend is working to support you all as well as learning so he can provide for you in the future. Big kudos to both of you. To me it sounds like you're going to be great parents.
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Well....you dont need to be scared and woried about if your gonna be a mommmy because if you give the baby LOVE that will make you OFFICIALLY a good MOM so dont worry plus you have friends and family to support you and YOUR BOYFRIEND....so just give the baby LOVE and thats all it needs and attention!!!!!
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So long as you love your child you will be a great mom! Don't even worry about that.
Lots of people don't want a baby when it happens. That is something the child need never know about.
Lots of people have to have help in the early years,
that is not a big deal either. It is necessary to keep the baby's dad in school so that he can provide for you in the future. Its a good thing if you can get help with that. Not a bad thing at all.
All the best for you now and in the future! :)
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Nah. Don't be afraid of that. You have that thing that women have, the 12th sense or something [6 thru 11 they use to know what their man has been up to haha jk]. Anyways, I think it will just come naturally to you.
The first kid is usually the 'experimental' one, where you test out everything. Don't be afraid of that, you need that a lot. You will be able to raise the child, its just going to take a lot of patience, strength, and even more love. Don't focus on messing up because we are all human and its bound to happen - just learn from others and from your mistakes. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Okay.. I hope you are not REALLY young.. but anyway, it is your fault, but do not feel bad about it. There's nothing you can do now, so make the best of it :)
I think you should go to parenting classes and read parenting magazines & stuff. They'll give you great tips :D
And don't worry, just believe in yourself. A lot of babies probably weren't planned. Anyway, good luck!
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