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Am I wasting my time with her
I am a guy, 32 years, even though people say I look and act 25. On May 9 2006, I met this 21 year old girl when she came for a 10-day workshop in my film school from another university some 3 hours drive from my film school. She is in her 3rd year. She gave me the impression that she liked me, always hanging around me, and I started to give her my time. I really got to like her afterwards. She told me she had no boyfriend, as her previous boyfriend, who was a student in her school had graduated and left the town and wasn’t calling her frequently enough the way she wanted and they tended to drift apart. Time could not permit us to start sleeping together before she returned to her school. She told me she was not good with long distance relationship but we agreed to give it a try. We exchanged phone calls everyday, with me doing most of the calling, but then she beeped (flashed) me very often whenever she wanted me to call. About first week of June she stopped beeping (flashing) me like she used to, even though I continue to call her regularly. I wondered if she wasn’t as enthusiastic about our relationship like before. I’ve visited her once and she promised to visit me in my school but she doesn’t until I graduated from my film school last month and left the town. I once told her that it seems we are not as imitate as before and she says it is because she has doubts that I can handle a long distance relationship. When I promised to play my part right, she promised to play hers too. In the last 9 days, I have been putting up in a town some 45 minutes drive from her school doing some screenwriting and I visited her once. She keeps saying she would come visit me in return but keeps saying she is not sure when, until she told me today that she will not come for reasons best known to her. I still do all the calling, she still doesn’t beep (flash) me always claiming she is broke, even when she is from a rich family. However, whenever we chat she sounds as friendly as ever. I have not slept with her or even kiss her, although I am not eager to, because I truly love her. I wonder if all is well, or if I am wasting me time on her.
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Dear,Wasted It may just be that she feels the relationship is dry or more so that she is scared that you won't take the relationship seriously..i belive you should talk to her about this slowly..if you havn't asked her friends do so it's much better when you find out the truth before jumping to conclusions..she also may be very busy and have other things on her mind it's not like she'll wait by the phone every time you call ...well good luck to you. Your friend Violet
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im a girl and i think that something is wrong with her behavior. usually she would be the one calling or visiting frequently. most likely she isnt interested anymore but she doesnt want to hurt you so she wants you to break up with her. Either that or she really is all the things she is saying (broke, bust, ect.) you are probably still wasting time with her and you should break up and find someone your own age
Hope it goes well.
~DarkChocolate794~
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Well, I'm a girl, and I think somethings fishy about her. She should take time from her day to see you and talk with you. Maybe she feels uncomfortable around a man who is 11 years older than her, but she still needs to be loyal to you. I think you should have a long talk with her about how you think your relationship is going with her. Then ask her how she feels about your relationship together. Hope I helped.
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It sounds as if she's losing interest but the only way you can find out for sure is if you talk to her about it.
Call her up and tell her you're coming over to visit. Get over there and ask her yourself if you're wasting time with her. Usually, if you're upfront about it, she'll be honest too.
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It's pretty much seems like she's losing interest. If ya'll could meet more often.. or if you could do something big to prove you really love her.. Or ya'll could have romantic day/picnic at the park and you could make a move. If that doesn't work you should probably give up, or atleast talk it out. Tell her "I really love you, but this isn't working out. If we can't talk more often or see each other mroe often, we should probably see other people." There are other fish in the sea. :)
-Sarah
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Maybe the age difference is a factor in this relationship. your girl is still VERY young, and is probably not ready for the same kind of relationship you are. I think that you should probably move on.
There are sooo many fish in the sea, you just gotta find one that has the same colors as you!
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seems to me like shes losing interest... maybe yu are wasting your time. the next time you talk to her tell her how you really feel about things and see what she has to say... if she kind of avoids it or just acts like it is no biggie then she probably isnt serious.
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If you are only 45 minutes from her you need to put more effort into being together. 45 min is about what the drive to work is here where I live
so I know its possible to do!
You need to sit down and have a serious talk. If she isn't taking the relationship as seriously as you are then you need do decide weather or not no move on. It is possible she only wants friendship and you will be wasting your time only to wind up hurt in the end.
Go visit and have a face to face long honest talk
with her.
Good luck. :)
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