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need to help my mom
My mom & I are really close. She loves my dad and they've been together over 20 years. Her very first love has recently passed away. They had a serious relationship when she was 17. (She's 48 now) She saw his last name in the death notices and she's been severely depressed for awhile now. She had a very involved connection with this man and I feel so bad for my mom. They hadn't talked in years & she doesn't know what he died from either. She really wants closure, but I don't know how to help her. What am I supposed to do in this situation?
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Theres not a lot you can do in these kinds of situations, unfortunetly.
The thing I suggest you do is just be there for her, comfort her, because theres not a lot you can actually say or do for someone who has lost something they have loved.
It does take time, to realize what has happened, why and how, and then acceptance of the situation.
I think is very thoughtful of you to ask a question like this, and its great to hear about a mother daughter relationship, because I have lots of friends who say they "hate" their mother, and I think thats horrible, its true, mothers are our best friends.
take care
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the best thing that you can do is just be there for her. sit down with her and talk to her. tell her you're really sorry about what happened. she will just appreciate her child being there with her to help her cope with this moment of difficulty. sometimes people just need someone to be with/talk to. just offer to be that for her.
ps i'm really sorry! i noe what first loves are like!
i hope i helped and again i am very sorry
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Nothing stings more than losing someone to death. I know you care very much about your mom and she definetly does need help getting through the grieving process and there isn't anything you can say to make things right again. You'll never be able to bring him back to her and that's what would make things 100% better.
I think what you have to do is talk to your dad about helping her through this as a team. I think it's absolutely great that you care a lot for your mom and want to help her, but it's hard to be a child and try doing whatever you can to help someone through grieving.
For one thing, if she's crying, move close to her and hug her, tell her it's ok. Don't be afraid to ask her if she wants to talk about it and that if she does, then your door is always opened. Sometimes you may have to step back and let her have alone time to make sense of things. What your mom does to feel and get better is up to her. If she thinks therapy might be something for her, then support the choice and let her know that you're proud of her for taking a big step forward. Make sure you try to get someone in your family to help you find a plan that will help her through this.
-TheTeenGirl
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Well, the best thing to do is to comfort her, and show her your there for her. And tell her that the stress will pass.
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if you already haven't you could show her you're there for her and try to cheer her up like do somethig special or something that use to make her happy. i hope i helpd or sparked some ideas.
xoxo i wish you the best of luck and if it means anything i'll pray for her
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