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I`m 15/f and im inlove with a 19 year old. It`s not that much of a difference but some people think it is. My parents wont let me see him because of his criminal record / past with drugs. What should I do? How can i find ways to be able to see him?
Ive never felt so special in my life and im so happy when im with him. sometimes when im in the car with my parents I start crying cause they dont understand how much i love him and they dont care.
how can i sneak around and find ways to see him please help me!
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If you're the type who gets upset when people don't tell you what you want to hear--DO NOT read any more of this. Don't rate me, don't comment, just ignore this. Because I'm going to tell you what you should do, and it's the exact opposite of what you want to do.
When you go out with a guy, you have to look at certain things. You'll always know that a good guy is good and that a scumbag is, well, a scumbag. The age difference isn't very much at all, and that's not what your parents are objecting to, it seems. Their only problem with him is a criminal record and a past with drugs? That's perfectly fine thing to have a problem with! These are more than just warning signals! So you're happy when your with him. That says nothing. A complete stranger could come up to you and give you a hug, and you would feel happy and special and safe--it's a natural reaction. I could tell you that you're the prettiest girl in the world, and that I'm the only one who understands you, but that doesn't mean I love you. You stay with this guy and you're going to get into more trouble than you can handle! Already you want to sneak around. That's really sad, I think. You have a relationship with your parents that is built on trust, and sneaking around is going to break that trust. Your parents DO care, that's why they don't want you to see this guy! Strong as you may think you are, you are capable of being hurt. And whatever happens to you, your parents will feel that pain tenfold. I sincerely hope you listen to this. There are better men out there. Just keep searching.
-Lea
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ok.. i am dealin with the same problem.. but the guy im involved with has a bad past as like a man whore.. && my mom doesnt like me being around him if there is some one else.. if you tell your parents that you are going to hang out with a bunch of friends.. && actually go to one that lives sort of close to him && go see him..
my mom does it to me all the time.. && the kid im involved with lives right across the street.. so i always say his mom is home or the person who lives there... so yea just say you are chillin w/ a group of people. and if that doesnt work tell her that you are starting to grow up && his past is in the past.. if he has changed then thats good. =]..
hope i helped =]
--Laina
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Ok, pay close attention here. Put yourself in your parent's shoes. They love you. They've known you since you were a baby girl. Cute, pretty, dance recitals, blah blah blah. Now you're 15, you think you're grown up, and you like,not love, this guy that has a criminal record and a past with drugs. Would you let your daughter go out with this guy? At 15, your emotions and hormones are at a high. And it only gets worse later. Rate me a 1, but this guy's a loser. You like him b/c he's got that badass factor. Besides that he's 19, you're 15, he doesn't want you for your mind. He wants to sleep with you, honey. Listen to your parents, they've been around the block longer than you, they truly do care for you, unlike the druggie.
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sneaking around isnt oyur best option. its stressful and if someting happens, what are you going to say? your parents are here for a reason, to protect you, and they see it as there princess 15 year old baby is involved with a 10 year old dirtbag druggie whos just going to end up hurting you, getting you involved with his criminal record, or drugs. They want you to have a future, and they will not believe your whole love story because they think you are too young and inexperienced to know what love is, and sorry to tell you, but youprobably are. Whatever you decide to do, be carefull, and talk to your parents. Maybe have him over for dinner one night, let them get to kno the kid so they feel more comfortable with you hanging out with him. he is only 19 and right now your parents probably dont believe he has a "PAST" because there is so much future for him...
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This is probably not what you wanted to hear, but you can't sneak around. Your parents WILL eventually find out. If they find out, you can be grounded for a really really long time and not have any boyfriends at all. You should probably take a little time off of your crush and try to reason with your parents. I think that they're trying to protect you because of his criminal/drug records. Love can be a dangerous thing. Just think this through first.
♥ SiMA
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you should not sneak around because if your parents found out they would not like you being with him even more.
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well there is four year diffrence and it is not becuase of the years it is because of the maturity of the ppl and if he has criminal record and past with drugs then it might not be such a good idea! and if your parents do not want you to see him it is because they might have some past that happend to them and they do not want you to get hurt! that is usually the reson parents say " don't do this" " don't do that" so you should trust their judge ment and if it were me i would not sneak around them because it will just get you in more truoble.
i do not care if you give me a bad rating but that is just how i feel about that
hope i helped in some way!
<~ Nikkie~>
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I know what it's like to be in love at age 15--your first love is unforgettable. But let's face it, if we gave you advice on how to see your love, he might end up in jail! The law is clear--you have to be 16. I you love someone, that's not something you want to happen to them, now do you? Don't get him in trouble. You have to wait. Otherwise, he might really get locked up for a long time.....
Don't be so hard on your parents. In a way they're looking out for both of you. They're making sure he doesn't go to jail and that you get a chance to really see if he's right for you.
Believe me, time will pass, another cute one will come along (who knows this summer maybe) and -- gasp -- you're in love again! Here's hoping that a new love closer to your age comes along soon......
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I'm 15 and my boyfriend is 19 too! Anyway, try to convince your family that he is done with his criminal life and life of drugs (if he is). If he is still getting into trouble, there is no way they'll let you be with him. If I were you, I would sit them down and have a serious talk and let them know how much you love this guy. Sneaking around isn't such a good idea. If you get caught, you will probably be in big trouble. But, you can always say you are going over a friends house and go with him or invite him over your friends house. Good luck!
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I think he is a tad older but that isn't really my issue, although I can see how that alone would freak your parents. He has a criminal past and a history of drug use? Of course your parents don't want you to be dating him! I think it would be wise for you to reconsider getting involved with him, but of course you probably won't see that problem because you are so in love, and focusing on the good. How to sneak around? I wouldn't, your parents aren't dumb- I promise. They'll be on the lookout for such behavior. If they catch you they could have this guy arrested techically, so if I were you I would lay low.
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they are just trying to be good parents and look out for you put yourself in their shoes would you let your 15 year old daughter hang out with a 19 year old boy who had crimail offenses if yes then your probably not going to be the best parent in the world but maybe you should move on and find someone else different who can make you feel the same way but is maybe your age and doesn't have lot od criminall ofeenses
i hope i helped =) Brianna
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you may not like this and you may give me a bad ratin but this is just real talk hes TOO OLD for you and he make you feel special because your young honey this isnt real love. sorry but im 18 and my b/f is only 19 rethink this and your parents are usually right even though you dont want them to be.
Jazzy**
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Well your 15, sweetheart so theres not a lot you can do. Your still a minor, and your parents are still in control of you. I can understand why your parents wont allow you to see him, because of his record. You get a record you know, for seroius offences.
Its against my will to give you advice on how to sneak around what your parents said, I highly suggest that you just listen to them.
You may be pissed and angry that I'm writing you this, but to be brutally honest you are 15, and you're naive. Everyone is, and theres always something someone can see about a situation, that ourselfs cant. So your parents are looking out for you. I would respect their decision.
Your also a freshman or a sophmore? And this kid with the record is 19, hes probably going to start going to college soon, and there will be TONS of different girls there for him to meet and have relationships with, how do you feel about that? You will have opertunitys to meet new people too, your still young.
Take care..
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