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Crazy Dad
My parents and I really don't get along because my dad sets double standards between my sister and I.
Well he makes himself impossible to live with. He always says stuff like "I'll smack you in the face if you dont do this.." and the sad part is I'm 18 years old. Yeah I should just move out, but I don't have the financial means to.
It's driving me crazy. I can't seem to do anything right, and he always is quick to point out things I do poorly in rather then see the things I sucueed in.
What should I do?
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I think maybe you should get a job, if you dont already have one, and start saving, cut things in life you dont need out, and start saving, saving, saving! But for the time being, maybe go live with a friend? See if they will let you, explain your situation to them, I'm sure they would take you in until you can afford your own place!
And about your dad,
some people are just like that,
they feel the need to have control of situations and stuff, to make themselves feel like an authority figure. But really they arent.
They are just being jerks.
I wish you the best of luck in this situation.
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i know this sounds cliche, but i would sit them down and tell them how you feel or i would bring this up with another family member (an adult, of course!) and have him/her talk to your parents. or confide in that person if you need them for help. good luck!
-Bess
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well.. the best advice is hang in there. do your best to try to make the money to move out, maybe with a friend or relative if you cant take it anymore. look at all options available. good luck and i hope i helped. :-)
-Kim-
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Hi
Sounds to me like your dad is borderline abusive. Just because you are 18 and considered an adult, doesn't mean that he cannot abuse you.
You said you don't have the financial means to move out, but I think you realize that that is what you need and must do.
Can you move in with another family member? What about getting a place with a friend? There must be someone who can help you out.
There's also government agencies who can assist you in getting on your feet, getting a job, and getting out of your situation. I'm not sure where you live, but I know in Canada there are such services.
Good luck, and remember that your well-being is most important.
Brenda
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Your father sounds like a bully and it should not be tolerated. Is there another adult in the family that could have a word with him? Does he bully your Mum and sister? Might it be possible to rent accommodation with one of your friends or move in with someone in your family? Is your sister older or younger than you? A lot of questions I know but sometimes the answers can help you see how you could approach him in a more adult manner. Yes you are 18 and as such you are also an adult. It might be worth going down to the local police station and asking for advice on where you stand with the threats. Or if that is not possible and you are still at school, ask to see the school counsellor. If he hits you then that takes it into physical assault and should be stopped immediately. I wish you all the very best.
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