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So this girl who was suposed to be my BESTFRIEND ratted on meh and my closest friends for drinking. Now I lost my best guy friend in the world and im never aloud to talk or see him again. my parents have a restraining order on him and Its killing me because I love him so much and would do anything for him..
Im not sure weather I should forgive my so called "bestfriend" or not...
what do yu think i should do?
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Look, your best friend did the right thing. Which would be harder for you, to not be able to see him because he drinks or to not be able to see him because you were driving when you were drunk and his was in the seat and got killed? Your best friend was looking out for you and she was, appearantly, the only one who was. Drinking kills, hurts, and damages.
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Obviously your feeling hurt and betrayed by this friend and i know that it is easy for me to say you should forgive her, but try and put yourself in her shoes. She was most probably concerned about you and your safety and didnt want anything to happen to you. Telling your parents was probably what she thought best to do in the situation so maybe you should consider how much you must mean to her. With regards to your male friend, it may be a good idea to compromise and work with your parents. Again they are only doing what they think is best for you but maybe if you feel you must see him you should explain how much you like him and that you understand the concequences of your actions. Also, maybe lay off the drinking-you dont need to drink to be socialble.
Hope i have helped,
Kerry
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Your Best friend was playing her role perfectly fine..she was looking out for you.. by making sure you were..safe.. she probobally didnt want you guys to drink and drive and hurt yourselves becasue the first thing to go when you drink is common sense. Yes you shouldnt just forgive her but thank her to maybe she saved your life you never no what might've happened if there was a next time really soon. You should talk to your parents about the restraining order, maybe compromise because i dont think thats fair.
hope i helped
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The answer is yes, forgive her. You seem not old enough to drink, and though it may not seem like it, she is looking out for your best interest in the long run. If you really want to see your guy friend, talk to your parents about it. Maybe set up some kind of system where if you stay away from the alcohol for a certain amount of time, you can see him. I dunno, just throwing some ideas out there.
-Odd Lockset
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ok from my view i honestly think she shuldnt have ratted..omg big deal people get drunk..so wat?.. its normal..
i wouldnt call her a "best" friend anymore
buh i wouldnt ignore her
concider her as just a friend i guess..
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Well, since you don't sound like an adult yet because you mentioned your parents..
I say stop drinking. Maybe your best friend was just looking out for you. I also think you should forgive her, because best friends are hard to find.
Okay, from what I know now, is that she drank too? Well, that's just dumb then. She probably wasn't thinking right. Plus, if she got you arrested, it will make it harder for you to forgive her too.
Just give it time, that's all I can think of to say.
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