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He got dumped
One of my best boy mates (lets call him adam) was going out with this girl (lets call her Tia). I had known Tia for a long time before Adam met her, but she asked him out, and they were inseperable.
What I hadn't told Adam was that Tia seems to use boys a bit, as soon as someone else comes along, she dumps her current boyfriend. I couldn't just go and tell him, they were so happy together and I didn't want to spoil anything.
Recently, Tia met this other guy (lets call him sean), and dumped Adam straight away. I can't believe it, cos Adam is so sweet and kind, i suppose he can easily get walked over though.
He treated her better than any other guy did.
Its just, he's so devestated, and I want to know how to make him cheer up. So, anyone got any ideas?
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hmm haha well i am a girl so im not too sure of ome boy stuff..but hey im sure you can pick him up onhis feet gain..get a buncha guys together and show him what its like to be hanging around with his boys who have his back..instead of being tied down with a relationship for once... go out and maybe along the way you can meet some chicks and if hes ready who nos!! maybe he'll get right back into it all..the crazy world of love! lol also keep giving him compliments and make sure he doesnt blame himself for the breakup
hope i helped
Tawny
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Dear He Got Dumped,
Relationships are important life teachers; no matter how difficult or painful, sometimes we need to go through what we need to go through. As friends, however we can offer emotional support which can be helpful.
It's not so important to "cheer-up" your friend as it is to just be there for him. He may want to talk about what happened, or maybe not; either way, letting him know that you care is important.
If the conversation gets to the point where you're wondering if you should tell him what you knew, think twice about this. Your intentions are important here! If your gut honestly tells you it would be best for him to know, then trust how you feel.
At any rate, your support can help him deal with a broken heart. Remember, friendships are important, so be good to each other.
I wish you well.
Take Care,
Earth Mother
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There isn't a whole lot that you can do about someone who is going through a break-up. At least not something that can make their pain go away.
All you can really do is let him know that he can come to you anytime he needs to talk to someone. But, usually guys just might want to be left alone after something like this happens because guys usually want to be strong like they are looked at as.
If he ever thinks about trying to get back with this girl again, or the possibility of them getting back together comes up, that would be the correct time to let your friend know who this girl really is.
-TheTeenGirl
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aww poor guy. i agree, you sound like a great friend to him. you should try to get his mind off this girl.. hang out with him .. go bowling or to the mall.. anything that'll be fun for him. and maybe you should tlak to him about it.. it's always good to tell him that it's okay and he deserve someone better for him. good luck
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Hi
Sounds like "Adam" has a great friend in you.
Unfortuntetly life is full of little lessons...some easy, some hard. He has just learned one of them. Love can be tough, especially when one of the parties has stronger feelings than the other.
I would try and cheer him up by making him realize that someone who could just dump someone when another person comes along, is not someone he should want in his life anyway. He can do better than that.
Just stick by him, and keep being the great friend that you are....and he will find someone who is deserving of a great guy like him. Take care.
Brenda
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