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Getting along with Mum
Me and mum used to get along really well. Now i am getting moody i suppose and i am always fighting with her. I hate it because we always got along so well. But i am not just saying it is me, mum seems to be a bit rude to me sometimes and i get really upset. I want to talk to her about it but every time i try she tells me to stop being so sensitive and silly. please help i am not sure what to do and it is really getting to me.
Thanks in advance
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I just want you to know that it's really normal to have really bad times with your parents as you start growing up into puberty and everything that has your moods going crazy.
But you just have to start thinking about when you get mad. If you are upset about something that happened in school, at least try to tell her. You don't have to tell her EVERYTHING, just the fact that school has you stressed and you feel cluttered so that she'll know that you need a break.
If you feel angry when you come home, or are just angry for no reason, then you should go in your room, and do whatever takes the anger away. Cool off by journaling, or listening to the radio. Lay down and watch a 30 minute T.V. show that'll take your mind off of things. And then maybe you can pinpoint what's making you upset. And as soon as you find that out, find a way to make that problem better. If you can't pinpoint it, then just move on.
I think you are very mature for trying to talk to your mom, she seems to take it like you are kidding. The next time you approach the talk, and she responds that way, just say, "I'm not being sensative or silly, I really miss the relationship we had. So let's talk about it seriously." Or something along those lines.
Sometimes you can get angry or sad without any triggered reason, and that's ok. You just have to remember to be careful of not lashing out on anyone that doesn't derserve to be your punching bag. Everyone goes through this, so if you just talk to them, then they'll understand too.
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Well me and my mom were just like that. We used to be so close but now all we do is yell and fight with each other.If you want to talk to her, just say mom sit down please and we need to talk. Tell her not to say anything until your done talking. That really bugs me.Just tell her to listen to you and mabey everything will be back to normal. Hope i helped..
~Kristy~
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I think that every mother and daughter have their moments. I fight with my mom alot to and we get along to. Sometimes i get really moody and cant control my emotions. The best thing to do is to try and act postive. You could write in a journal and write how you are feeling and stuff. It helps get some anger out. Also you could find something that you love t do that will help get soe of your anger out. Your mother loves and sometimes they get moddy and they dont want to admit it. I have learned that their lives are more stressful than we think they are but if you try and take it one day at a time it will help you alot. Try and be nice to your mother one day and then gradually increase until it is a process for you.
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I know what you mean.
Sometimes me and my dad are like that.
But i figured something out:
If i can be grown up about things and meet him half way on things then we both stay calm and fight less. For example if i wanted to stay out to ten and he wanted me home at eight, we'd agree on nine.
I dunno, i guess being honest with parents helps too.
It's hard, but it's worth it.
Good Luck.
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relationships with parents are difficult, even if it means you two were the best of friends and got a long really well. it's pretty much both your responsibility for your guys' relationship right now, but it's not a fault either. just avoid any topic that would lead to another argument. just lay low for now and don't try any small talks or sensitive talking as of the moment. she'll realize how much your drifting away from her and how much you guys dont talk. im not saying to completely ignore her, but show her in some way that you're trying your best to avoid fights and want everything the way it used to be. good luck [;
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So it seems like there are two problems - your mom is rude to you, and you're very moody... I translate that to you being rude to her as well.
Now, you have complete control over your moodyness - you have no real control over your mother. So, my advice would be to exercise your control over yourself first; if you're in a bad mood, stay away from people or do something that you know will cheer you up. If you're successful in controlling the moodyness towards your mom I'm sure you'd have less of a problem.
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