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Parents Suck
i have a question bout my parens ...... well dealing with them. I am 15 years old. My parents argue a lot and i cant take it. i hate it so much and they dont understand how much sress it causes me. i dont know how to deal. how can i deal with the stress and anger they cause me? please answer as soon as possible. thank you.
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Stressed and emotional
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My parents have done that before too. What I do first is I go in my room and turn up the TV loudly or music.
If it gets completely out of hand, I go for a walk IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD. Don't just get up and walk out of the house. Walk past them and say "I'm going for a walk." This will probably help them understand that you don't like them arguing, and they might stop.
You should also try sitting them down and talking to them about how you feel about them arguing.
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I usually just tune up my music volume or think of other things. I know the usual fights my parents have and they are nothing too serious.
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you are in a hard situation and its understandable that you are stressed and emotional. Anyone would be with that going on. You can try and talk to them, like the other have suggested. That may help. Also, why not focus on yourself. In a few years you could be headed to college. Think about where you would want to go, it could be anywhere in the country. Find out what you need to do to get in, like grades, extra-cirriculars, etc. then go for it. First, it will keep you busy and out of the house, so you don't have to deal with that. Second, it will show that their negativity won't get you down. You do things that are positive for you and you will start to feel better. You can't help who you are born to or the situation they are in, but at a certain point in your life, like now, you can make things happen for yourself.
Good luck and keep me posted!
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Parents arguing leads to things and you don't have to be a part of them. They can handle their own problems. you just have to let it go. you can always spend time with one parent and maybe they will realize what theyre doing to you. you should give it a try.
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I know from experience how hard this can be. I would sit down with your parents and let them know how it makes you feel when they argue. It might not stop the arguing, but they might at least agree to do it when you're not around. If that doesn't work, try getting away from the situation as much as you can. Get involved in some after-school activities or find a part-time job. I know you said you're only 15, but there are still some jobs that would get you out of the house. You might even consider volunteer work. Visit your friends as much as you can. I found it was easier to deal with the fighting if I was away from it as much as possible. Good luck.
Some jobs you might try are babysitting, cleaning, yardwork, dogwalking or petsitting. You can also try asking elderly neighbors if they need help with carrying groceries or housework.
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That happens to me too! It's not my mom and dad though...it's my mom and my uncle! Well I understand how you feel, especially when you're in the middle and you're in you teenage years. And when you try to stop them or part the arguement they say you're 2 young and you don't understand! Well I've tried a new approach which i think might help you. Try telling them about it and if it doesn't work just try to be angry with them and go in your room and not talk to them...jus forget they exsist!
Then I'm sure your parents will agree for the sake of you. Also try to tell them how much it hurts you to hear them quarreling and if your grades are bad tell them the stress it getting to you. I'm sure in this case your parents best interest is you and remind them of that! Tell them it's not a matter of divorce because it will hurt you more...n i'm so sure they'll see your side of things!
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talk to a counseler whether its in school or out and you need to talk to someone along with your parents. sometimes people get so caught up in their emotions that they forget about the other people there. just let them know how you feel or if you feel that you cant do that take them to a meeting with a counseler with you so you feel like you have another person on your side too
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