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I AM Just Like You..
So i'm a 14/f and (i live in a very weathy area,but am not rich)i have a disability called Cerebral Plasy, it effects the way i walk and is VERY noticeable.At school i am not popular ( not that that is very important) and people look down on me because of my disability. What they dont understand is that i am just like them: i am a girl who can talk and be fun and loves music and shopping and girly(ish)thing> what they dont understand is that i am just LIKE THEM. I am not saying i want to be a clone of them or anything, i just wish that they wouldnt judge me for my disability instead of getting to know me because i am JUST LIKE THEM (but not a judgeing bi***).
It is the same way with boys too. The problem is i was trained to be shy because i know they judge me, but i am not shy with friends of family.
What can i do to show them that i am not just some freak.
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Unfortunatly, you can't force people to accept you. My little brother has Down Syndrome and he will probably never "fit in" with normal kids. That doesn't bother him though, he just goes on being the happy, nice kid that he is. If those people can't accept you for who you are, move on and find some people who can, they're out there it's just a matter of finding them.
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ok i don't know how you problem works out because i do not have it but people like that you do not need them because then if you call them friends then they are really not your friends but what you need to do is be your self and never change that maybe some guy will be out there for you and the shyness thing that you will get over it and people have to understand that your a human with the same respects that who can talk like us and who breathe the same air as us so don't let no body turn you down and if people think that you are a freak then they are worse as a freak then you are so i hoped i helped you out bye
nicole
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The reason they don't understand you is simply that; they do not understand. A lot of them have been raised in so-called normal families. You know, the dream kind where nobody has anything wrong with them? Actually, I don't believe that. Everybody has their share of problems. But people seperate themselves into distinct social groups VERY early in life. In preschool they teach us that everybody is different, but it doesn't really help. We learn what we know from interacting with other people and usually the conclusion we come to is that different is bad. So while these kids logically know that you are a person just like them, deep inside they are not sure how to act. They might think that if they hang out with you, people will see them as being different. Also, they might feel very sorry for you and think that you would find this insulting. How do you know they look down on you? Do they actually try to hurt you? Or do they, for the most part, ignore you? If they are just ignoring you, you need to make yourself noticeable. If you're good at art/writing, there might be a literary magazine or a newspaper you could join. Or drama club, chorus, etc. Whatever you're good at. Don't wait for people to come to you--go out to them! They'll only know who you are if you MAKE them. However, if it is that they are actually trying to hurt you, go to your parents, the principal, etc. They will help you, for bullying is a crime against humanity and also a literal crime that can be punished by law! Remember that everybody is judged and everybody judges other people. Even you are judging some of these people; maybe some of them are shy as well, not mean. If it wasn't the CP, it would be something else, like the shape of your eyes or the unusual music you like. People single out differences--it's not right, of course, but it's part of life. You can overcome it.
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The truth is, kids are mean.
I know your probably just like them, but they don't see that because they don't bother to get to know you becuase you have a disability.
Try getting to know ppl online, and get friends outside of school. If they know how you act and your personality hopefully they will see that you are more than just a disability unlike the people at your school.
Teenage years are tough years, I am a teenager myself. I hope that everything works out for you, and know you always have friends here on advicenators.
Marta
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It may be that your shyness keeps them away more than your CP.
They may be unsure how to approach you. Sometimes a shy person is mistaken for being stuck up.
Try to talk to them more. Start with a hi and work your way up to having a longer conversation.
If they are truly shunning you because of your CP, rest assured that people do grow out of that kind of childish behavior.
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You don't have to be shy. It's your life, right? You can choose how to live it! Alot of people are jerks out there, but alot of people are nice. get to know people. The more you get to know them, the more they will get to know what a great person you are. Ask some nice people to hang out with you! Have a sleepover!
Don't EVER let anyone make you think you're less than what you are.
<33 Johanna
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Everyone in school will get judged and talked about, you have more of that because your difference is noticable as you said. I can't exactly imagine how you feel to have that extra layer of judgement, but the important thing is that you know that you are just like everyone else and you are fun, loving, and pretty.
This is important because these are people at your school, it isn't your sister, brother, or parents. These people are people you won't have to live with forever. And if people don't really care to actually hang out with you, or talk their time to talk to you before they say something, those people don't deserve to know you in the first place. They don't even deserve a chance. You don't need to show these people that you aren't what they say you are. It doesn't matter what you do, they will always want to see you as what they say you are.
And it isn't because they hate you or anything, it's because you are physically different and people see it, so they have nothing better to do than laugh at somebody who is as different as you. You need to just hang out with your friends like you are a normal fun girl that you describe yourself as! And don't be afraid to open up to new people, I know it's hard, but as you say, you are just like anyone else and it's true.
-TheTeenGirl
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People in middle school and high school are like that. Most of them don't care about other people's feelings and they just want to fit in and be "popluar" .. it's pretty lame. They also won't talk to people outside of their little groups. I know that you are just like everyone else. Everyone is different in their own way and people need to learn how to accept that. You are a person and you deserve respect, but you can't do much to change those people's mind. Be who you are. Keep doing whatever you're doing. Talk to more people and just let your personality brighten up and let them get to know you. Talk to more people and they will see what kind of person you are and it will change their views on you.
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