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Well last night my mom and I had a fight and she said well if your dads so great go live with them so I started to cry, I sent a text message to my dad and step mom and I was like well if it comes down to it can I live with you. They havent replied and so I sent them another one about a hour ago. Still no answer my mom has been a real bitch lately and I dont know what to do somtimes I want to go live with my dad but I really dont like my mom just its my friends and the skit we are doing for the variety show that makes me want to stay. Please help.
♥ Tiff
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Perhaps your mom is just not buying into what some kids of divorced parents do. Which is... play one parent against another. Without realizing it, that may be what you are doing. In other words, she is just calling your bluff. I would guess that she doesn't seriously want you to leave, but is practicing a little tough love. Perhaps your Dad isn't playing the game--and that's why he is ignoring you too.
As hard as it may be when you are upset, make a a "good karma" list. Write down all the reasons you might want to stay with your Mom. Keep it upbeat and positive and you just may bring good energy to your life at your Moms--good things will start to happen right where you're at, you'll see.
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I know how it is...I've been there myself. Something you may want to keep in mind in the interest of getting along with your mother is she may have a lot of stress factors going on that she is not be sharing with you. Sometimes parents try to protect their children from things because they don't want to stress their children out. It sounds to me like something stressful is going on in some aspect of her life, such as, work, relationships, friendships, the PTA...It sounds to me like you may have said or done something that lead her to believe that you don't appreciate the things she does do for you. It doesn't mean it is true. It just means that she's not thinking clearly and she isn’t seeing your appreciation. That is evident in her statement that you could go ahead and live with your father if you wanted. I don't think she really meant that. She's exasperated. She needs some patience from you for some reason right now. Take a step back and look at what is going on for your mother. Be open to what is going on for her right now. Maybe there is something you can do to help her. This would greatly help the two of you in your communication. It will also soften her up to whatever it is you need from her.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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sounds like your mom might be stressed out and well you being the closest person she will take it out on you. She loves you very much and when you get older you will cherish the time you spend with her. cut her some slack and listen to what she is saying. I was in a similar situation when i was younger and believe me i wish i would have taken this advice. good luck
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Dear Tiff
Parents say things when there mad. I don't think your mom would really want you to go and live with your dad becaue she'll miss you. It's might be even harder when your at your dad's. Try talking to your mom and tell her how you feel and see if you too can work it out before you make the decision to go and live with your dad.
I like to be firends with you. If you want you can email me at keemkick@hotmail.com or white_grey_wolf@yahoo.com. Hope to hear from you soon.
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Tiff,
Your mom probably didn't mean it. When people get mad they say things they don't mean, even parents do it. Your mom probably senses the way you feel towards her, and I'm sure she's hurt by this. That's why she said what she did to you.
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Dear Tiff,
It would be cold of your dad not to send a message back, so until you know for sure just assume he didn't recieved or read it. Try giving him a call or visiting him, he can't avoid answering the question that way.
Also, try to realise that it isn't easy for your mother if she has the idea you like your dad or your stepmom more than you like her. If you want to solve this you may need to convince her of the fact that you love her just as much, and stop comparing the situation you have with your mom with the one you have with your dad.
You will have to decide for yourself what you value more, having a stable home situation or living near your friends. That's a hard decission, but you're the only one who can make it. Just take some time to think about it, what you need most right now and in the near future.
Take care,
Raeden
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