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I nee biiiiiig help!
ok there was this boy,
and he is my best friend's ex boyfriend.
but she still has feelings for him.
but he broke up with her.
but first time I saw him I had a crush on him too. I didnt tell my best friend, I couldent do that to her! but he had a football game and they won. my friend went to go to the rest room after the game. and I waited on the bentaches the the boy came up to me and sat by me. he said hi. I thought my friend would say it was ok just to have a confersation. then so we talked. the bathroom was like a couple minnets away. then right when my friend came she saw me and him holding hands!
she got mad but after a week she forgave me. that friday we were planning to go to a party. and he was there. soon my friend decided to leave but it was his house and he told me he had to show me somthing. I told him no beacuse of what happened. he talked me into it. then it was his room and you know what happened next yes we had sex.
but now at school I see him and he smiles. I hate keeping this from her.
I think he really likes me but so do i. but my friend will hate me!!!!! what do I do!!!!!!!??
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all i can say isd slut whore prostitute hoe cunt thats horrible how could you do that to your FRIEND!!! isnt much of a friend i guess well YOU arent much of a friend WHORE
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If you're old enough to be having sex, you're old enough to work on your grammer, your punctuation, and on spelling words like "conversation" and "minutes" correctly. Hon: you should've stopped at going to the game.
"Having feelings" for someone is as much a valid reason to have sex as "having hunger pangs" is a valid reason for buying a farm. Just as the second is a waste of your money, the first is a waste of your body, emotions, pride, honor, and friendships.
You need to tell your friend what happened instead of forcing her to live your lie, and you need to know that she has every right to be upset with you and want to discontinue the friendship, because honestly: what you did was pretty rotten. And I know that of course you didn't do it to hurt her! I honestly believe you didn't mean to hurt anyone! But if you had been thinking of how much it would've hurt her, if you'd have been thinking about anyone but yourself (ex. the guy, your friend, your future boyfriends/husband, etc.), you wouldn't have done it ("it" being sleeping with some guy for no good reasons but a lot of bad ones). So if she can't trust you to think of her feelings when she has the potential to be incredibly emotionally and socially injured, then why should she bother continuing to be close to you if all she's doing is continuing to run that risk?
Actions have consequences. Period. And I've seen this exact scenario played out in the lives of friends of mine, and every time the guy ended up eventually fading out of the picture (because most relationships just don't last, especially when they're based solely on physical attraction) and the friend ended up feeling wronged and upset and not wanting to be friends with the other girl any more. And rightly so. Your best friend has been totally dissed by you and by this guy. If I were her I'd be angry and embarassed because, essentially, this girl has been cheated on by her best friend.
I mean, rate me a 1, do what you have to do. I log off and your frivolous disregard for your friend's feelings ceases to exist. But somebody needs to start being honest with you about 1. your spelling/ grammar skills, and 2. the way you treated someone you care about, because both are pretty darn low right now.
Forgiveness is never unattainable, mercy is never completely out of reach, but neither can be expected or demanded. If they could they'd be worthless. They are gifts. Be worthy of them. And the worthier you are of them, the less likely you'll find yourself doing things that require them. Ask for her forgiveness, show her you deserve it, and be prepared to live with whatever decision she makes. I hope he was worth it, but I very much doubt he was. And from the guilt you feel, it sounds like you might agree....
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well you got yourself in a big mess her hun .. um .. well if you like him you cant help how you feel i mean yeah your friend will be pissed but if she is such your good friend she wont be pissed for that long i mean look at it this way there will be millions of guys in all of ours lives and we cant just stick for that one guy who it most likely wont happen with again so i think you should go for the kid even though it may hurt her you should .. and i know she will come back and be your friend cause if she is your good friend she wont go and hate you over a boy but about the sex thing telling her .. you might wanna tell her like soon cause the longer you keep it from her the more pissed she'll be so yeah she'll be pissed for a couple weeks a month tops and then she'll get over it cause no one even bothers caring for that long ..
hoped i helped hun
♥ brooke
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okay, she is your friend and it's not fair to her for you to be doing things behind her back, at least tell her
if she gets mad about it, tell her you're sorry, but that you two have feelings for each other and like each other
if she doesn't understand, that's okay, but try to be nice to her and not to be talking about him and you too much
hopefully she'll forgive you and if she doesn't, which i doubt she won't, she isn't a very good friend
if you really feel bad about doing this to your friend, she will realize that and forgive you
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friends should come first becuase theyll always be there...guys will come and go...i know it may be hard..but you have to tell your friend but tell her that you didn't want to hurt her.
xO _ aLi mIcHeLLe <3
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What you neeed to do is you need to tell your friend the truth, she will never forgive you if you keep hiding this from her. yes she is obviously going to be upset but you know if shes your TRUE friend evetually she will forgive you it's just it may take a very long time. But the best advice i can give is to tell her and hope for the best.
Now as for this guy, dont go there, shell be mad enough about what happened she doesnt wanna have to deal with you with him also, and if he would do that to his ex-girlfriend with her best friend than he cant be trusted. because he wont change his ways and how will you know if he does that to you.
What you need to do is put yourself in your friends shoes...
Your friends will be with you forever, he wont....trust me, tell her and leave him behind, hes not worth it...
need any more help just ask...good luck
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Friends before boys. Always. It's an unwritten rule.
I don't think you should try to be his girlfriend. Why? Because, number one, it will really not be considerate to your friend. She will probably be hurt. Number two, you had sex with him! You betrayed your friend once already; getting together with him will hurt her more.
About the sex thing, I'd tell her. Friends are supposed to be honest with one another. If you don't tell her, there is a possibility that she could find out from someone else, and that would be much worse than if you told her yourself.
If you choose to tell her, make sure to be calm and tell her when you two are alone and she isn't in a bad mood. Tell her how sorry you are and that you will never do anything like that again (and stick to your promise).
I'll be 110% honest with you; she probably will be more than just a little upset. If she got that mad that you were holding hands with him, then she'll probably be a lot more mad at this situation. There is a possibility that she might not trust you again, or she might stop being friends with you. I'm not saying it is positive that this will happen, but anything is possible. Trust is easy to lose and hard to gain back.
I'm not trying to be negative, I just wanted to be honest with you.
But you made the decision to have sex with him. You could have backed out, but you didn't. You know that your friend has feelings for him. You have suffer the consequences for your actions, good or bad. Learn from this situation.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
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Oops! You made a huge mistake… sleeping with your best friends ex… that’s like completely against the BESTFRIEND rules! But mistakes happen & we’re only human beings… I would suggest instead of feeling guilty… tell your best friend the truth… at least you own her that much… Friendship is something that is meant to be valued… so tell your best friend everything that happen between you and this guy… and if she’s a true friend she would understand with a kind heart. Just take the chance.
I hope everything works out for u!
and please tell me if my advice worked for u! plz i could use the feedback
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You can't keep this from your friend forever. think to yourself who means more to you? your friend or this boy who do you think would stick with you no matter what?
You should explain to your friend that you like him alot and that you dont want to ruin the friendship between you and her. If shes a great friend she should understand and she forgave for holding hands. yes sex is a big thing but tell her you were not planning on doing it when you went to the party.
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