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Cancer.
I recently found out that one of my best friends has eye cancer. If it spreads to her brain, which it probably will within the next year, she'll die. She refuses to do anything about it, surgery or chemo, and is just giving up. I've tried to convince her to do something, and she won't listen. What should I do?
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Unfortunately, you can't force her to get medical help. If she's only just found out about the cancer, she could be going through a normal depressed, angry state - many people emerge from this and seek medical help. If your friend is a minor, she will most likely not have control of her medical options, anyway - whatever her doctor recommends and her parents decide will have to happen.
The best, and only, thing for you to do is to be her friend. This means doing normal things if she's up for it, but also holding her hand, offering to talk, and just generally being there. Love can be an amazing healer of the soul, and a healthy soul is more likely to seek medical attention.
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Talk to her. I know you probably have, but there isn't really any other way to get through to her.
When you talk to her, make sure she isn't in a bad mood and that you're alone. Make sure she's free and not in the middle of doing anything.
Ask her why she doesn't want to go though treatment first. That could help you talk to her.
Then, tell her how you feel. Be calm. Tell her that you love her, and that she has many people who also love her. Tell her that they want you to get better and would be sad if she left without fighting. Let her know that you will always be there for her if she goes through treatment. Stay true to your word as well.
I hope all goes well and that she changes her mind!
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥Manders
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oh gosh i am so sorry about this situation. Tell your friend you really care about her and because of this, she should take care of herself. If nothing at all works, tell her mom how you feel about everything.
good luck, best wishes.
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well, if you can't convince her to do anything, don't keep pressuring her to do it,
you'll just lose her as a friend. instead, show her a hell of a life, and have as much fun as possible with her.
make her have the best llife that she'll always remember!
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if she really want to just live her life as is then let her. all shes saying is she doesnt want the last months of her life to be a drag (chemo basically drains the life out of you, she doesnt want that) you can try to convince her all you want want but it ounds like her mind it made up.
good luck however and i hope she is ok or if not i hope she lives the longest possible in the best way possible.
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I'm sorry you're going through this right now. Cancer is a hard thing to deal with. I have a friend currently fighting cancer right now so I understand where you're coming from.
The important thing is to be there for your friend and try to keep her upbeat as much as possible. The choice as to whether she tries chemo or surgery is something she has to make for herself. She may have reasons for not trying to fight the cancer. Both surgery and chemo can have some nasty side effects and don't necessary come with the guarantee she'll be cured. There also may be other issues that you're not aware of. For example, there may be medical reasons why she can't.
She also may be in denial or not fully understand the impact of the cancer yet. Just give her some time.
Just be there for your friend. Whether she decides to fight the cancer or not, she's going to need a lot of support right now.
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The time is always ticking. And when time starts running out she will do something. Give it time...i mean there isnt a lot left but she will realize how bad it is after it starts effecting her.
exx and ohh and god bless her.
>>--Whitney-->
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aw, im sorry. my dad.. we found out he has cancer (liver) and it's the worse it can get. he will probly die in a week. he was an acholic.. and well my mom divorcid him and i use to not see him for months at a time. i live in new orleans and well i got flooded (like everyone) and my dad showed up to fix my house. well he started to get sick. and now im SO happy herrican katirna came because or else he would be sick some place else. it's like a mericle. well i what ever is happinging to your freind.. god has a plan! =]
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Talk to her parents about it?
Or tell her that you don't want to lose her because she means a lot to you as a best friend.
You can go along with her to the doctor and be there for her. I mean, yeah I would be sort of scared.
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