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is he trying to use me?
One day, lets just say "Bob", he wrote me a note saying 'hey, and somehow we got into a sexual conversation. He was asking me ?'s such as, who did you make out with and did you ever give head? Later that week, we started talking online alot. We started liking each other. While all this happening, he had a long term girlfriend, although they broke up about 9 or 10 times. They broke up about 2 weeks ago, and have stayed broken up. I talked to a few people and they said that he might be trying to get a fast fuck. They said this because it was a little weird that he just now started talking to me. Before this we never spoke. Do you think that he is being truthful or is he trying to use me? (hes called me several times and has asked me to hang out)
well any advice would be helpful. thanks
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I don't think hes using you. Maybe he really likes you. Agree to hang out with him one day and see what happens. If it seems like hes just trying to get with you then you should just say that you don't wamt a friendship with him like that. But if around him you feel happy and feel that hes not trying to use you than i would go for it!
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hmm... well that is weird that he has just started talking to you. but i think i would try to hang out with him. If that is what he is after than you can stop hanging out with him or jsut tell him im not going to do anything with you! and you have to go with how you feel about the whole thing. If while talking to him and hanging out wtih him you feel a little bit uncomfortable than i wouldnt hang out with him as much. But if around him you feel happy and feel that hes not trying to use you than i would go for it!
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mabey he does and mabey he doesnt. but for your own good stay away
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Well Im not really sure so here is what I would do. When he starts asking sexual questions or makes a move on you while your hanging out just say no, not untill i know you better. See if he slowly stops talking to you and that would mean he was using you. But if he isnt and respects you he will stil talk to you and flirt and stuff. Good luck!
Ashley♥
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If he kept asking you those kind of questions while he had a girlfriend, then that's not good. He might have used her for that stuff. If you never talk to him & he asks you questions about sex & he wants to hang out with you out of no where, than he's more then likely trying to use you.
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it sounds like he might be useing you yeahh, but i wouldnt have noticed it unless someone pointed it out... so just talk to him if you want just dont get to caught up in him and make it serious. try and stay at the 'just friends' level.
XO KALIE
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Im not the most saintly man on the planet, however im hoping my past deeds/experiences can somehow help you out.
Many years ago, i broke up with a girlfriend of 1 year, as soon as it happened i was hurt, and dient know what to do with myself..my friends advice was " get a quick piece of ass with the first girl that shows interest"..Unfortunately me beign a man, I went and did just that. I began to speak to a girl that i had barely ever spoken to, i managed to get her to sleep with me.
Thats the end of my story, i hope it gives you some ideas of how the mind of a guy works.
by the way, after sex, i never spoke to the girl again.
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If it was completely out of the blue, it's not a normal way to start any kind of relationship. Having sexual conversations with a girl you haven't talked to much before while you're still going out with another girl, that doesn't sound like a real trustworthy guy to me. Try and have nonsexual conversations with him, see if he seems to sincerely interested in you as a person. If you do go out with him, watch for him trying to make a move too soon. If he does, it probably means he's just trying to get some.
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If he talked to you like this while he had a girlfriend, what makes you think you'll be so special? What will stop him from talking dirty to a girl after he's in a relationship with you? I'm not saying people don't change, but he doesn't sound very trustworthy. I'd wait after I'd gone out with him a long time to do anything sexual with him.
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