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Q: There's this talent show coming up and I want to sing in it. I've been singing for a long time in a choir and I've been very well-trained, but one thing is that I'm worried about. I don't know whether I have a good voice. When I listen to myself singing I think I sound good, but I recorded myself on a tape recorder (mind you, not the professional kind). It sounded too horrific to describe in words. And I know it's not because I'm not trained/have no vocal technique/straining/no breath control and/or not breathing correctly/no support/whatever, because I am none of those things. It's just the sound of my voice. I heard that tape recorders don't record accurately and everyone things they sound bad on a recorder, but I'm still worried that I have a bad voice. At the talent show, it would be very embarassing if everyone thought I had a terrible voice and no one has the gut to tell me, so I need to know before this happens. Is there any other way I can find out what I really sound like without expensive professional tools? I don't want to go to my friend and say "Let me sing for you and tell me if I'm good or not" because I can never know whether my friend is being honest or just doesn't want to hurt my feelings. Any ideas? Sorry this was long, but I need help.

ok well if you go to all those training singing things liek chior and stuff you cant sound really bad! but its probably in your mind so what i owuld do is... even though sometimes your friends do jsut say that to make you feel better still go to your friends... and maybe you have a friend that is more truthful than all the others.. so go to that one first and if not than explain to your friends you font want to make a fool of urself and make sure they understand they have to tell the truth so you no what to do! well i hope you end up doing the talent show and if you do congrats!

Q: ok. i dont get anymore. im in love with this guy, and he said he was in love with me. so i thought everything was going to turn out happily ever after. but i was wrong. we havent been getting along lately. and yet i dont know i keep remembering how we use to be soo in love. soo everytime i think of the old times, no matter how mad i am at him, i think of it and i begin to get over it and think he is still in love with me. so its ok..for like..10 minutes then we just get in a argument and everythign turns horrible. no matter how many times he says he loves me, i cant believe it anymore, but yet i tell him i love him back cause i really do. i just dont know what to do about the arguements without having to like..break up anything between us. i still want us to work out. i just need some advice to keep it working out. help please =(

ok i think that if you care about him and love him that much... u need to tell him how you feel and how you hate these arguments... you need to approach him and see how he feels and thinks about it... without arguing.. sometimes its hard.. but he has to no that you love him but this arguing is making you upset... and you need to no how he feels about it! well i hope everything works out!!

Q: One day, lets just say "Bob", he wrote me a note saying 'hey, and somehow we got into a sexual conversation. He was asking me ?'s such as, who did you make out with and did you ever give head? Later that week, we started talking online alot. We started liking each other. While all this happening, he had a long term girlfriend, although they broke up about 9 or 10 times. They broke up about 2 weeks ago, and have stayed broken up. I talked to a few people and they said that he might be trying to get a fast fuck. They said this because it was a little weird that he just now started talking to me. Before this we never spoke. Do you think that he is being truthful or is he trying to use me? (hes called me several times and has asked me to hang out)

well any advice would be helpful. thanks

hmm... well that is weird that he has just started talking to you. but i think i would try to hang out with him. If that is what he is after than you can stop hanging out with him or jsut tell him im not going to do anything with you! and you have to go with how you feel about the whole thing. If while talking to him and hanging out wtih him you feel a little bit uncomfortable than i wouldnt hang out with him as much. But if around him you feel happy and feel that hes not trying to use you than i would go for it!

Q: im 14/f and i want to get a job but i dont know any. i tried looking it up on the internet but i didnt get anything ill rate 5! and leave good comments! thanks so much!

Well at 14 there isnt any good jobs that you can find! I no i tried! lol! But the only places that i no you can get jobs are fast food resturants like taco bell i no for sure hires at 14! yea i no its a sucky jo,but if you want a job and low on money i would try it!

Q: Okay tonight i was suposed to go see a movie with my boyfriend and some of his friends. By the way Im 15 and hes 16. The movie was rated R and I told him to get his parents to go ahead and get them in advance. But he didnt take my advice we get there and we buy tickets to another movie. Well then the movie i wanted to see ... they were checking ticket. Now Im pissed because I really wanted to see this movie and Me & my bf were the only 2 who didnt get in. He should have listened to me right??

Should I really be this pissed?

yes you are right he should have listened to you! and you have a right to be mad, but not this mad. So what you didnt see the movie there are always other times to see it. and at least you got to spend time with your boyfriend.

Q: ok to start im 13/f
the other day in school.. i wrote my boyfriend a note... i had my bestfried give it to him.. she told me that my x said that me and my boyfriend are over.. so i wrote my boyfriend another note saying that we are over (since i don't want to be the one being dumped!) well my boyfriend said that he wasn't going to break up with me and now im totally upset! i really regret that i broke up with him! i love him so much!
but the day i broke up with him he goes and asks out this slut! (how desperate!)
I CAN'T BELEIVE I BELEIVED MY XX!
idk what should i do? should i tell my boyfriend how i feel and how i think i we should go back out?
or should i just wait to see what happens when he breaks up with that slut?

PLEASE HELP! thanks!

Well first off never believe your X get the true facts first! but maybe he is going out with this "slut" because he is trying to make you jealous. So i would try to talk to him about it especially if you really like him!

Q: I'm around 5'2" and I'm pretty comfortable with my height. However, I have 34 D boobs. Now, most girls might like this, but they are extremely unporportional to my body which the doc said won't grow any taller. I feel like whenever a tall guy talks to me he looks down my shirt. I've heard guys say things about it to, and sometimes I feel like all they are trying to do is get a peek at my chest. What do I do?!?

well i would say dont wear low cut shirts or wear more hodies.

Q: Ok, this question is what i'd probally call an original.

its actually quite simple

a while back i was dating this black kid ( and i saw black bc this was a main problem )and he was freidns with my brother, and so he was over my house often, and my mother knew him

we started going out, things progressed, and my mother found out, she said things like he just wanted to get in my pants, hes a street kid, he doesnt' get good grades, and alot more things, but even though my motehr said she wasn't racist i felt she was ( she also said that my rep could get ruined )

i didn't really care what people thought bc i loved him, but eventually he moved away, and i had a rough time

main point : my mother ( finally ) bought me thongs in the summer 05 =]

i likeed thmm alot and everything, but my mother ''heard stores'' about me and him, and then one day she came in my room and took them..

at first i was confused, and i still am
she NEVER told me why she took them.which made me extremley pissed

its been MONTHs now, and i even asked for them back probally 2 months ago..and she said no!

it really pisses me off, its hard to explain

do you think theres a way to get my mother to give them back? its hard to konw bc i don't know why she took them
anything would be apprecited though

thanks in advance

ok i would be pissed 2!! lol! but i would go up to her and somehow make her answer why she took them from you. because in my view thongs dont make any body different from people who dont wear them. its jsut what people like to wear. My point is get an answer from you mother and once you get one talk to her from there.

Q: Holding a grudge isnt the best to do. But what happens when something really just ticks you off and you can't help it. How do I get rid of a grudge without having to say sorry first? I mean what if it wasnt my fault?

ok not knowing much of what happened im going to give you my best advice. If you feel that you dont need to apologize than dont. Talk to the person about it, and yes i no sometimes tlaking to the person about it is really hard. Its hard for me, but if your not sure about it you really need to talk to the person it involves.

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