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i dont think my bf honestly likes me i think he just wants me to give him head,well the only reason i think he is going out wit me is b/c i gave his friend head and he fingured me and all that stuff b/c he was my x and i think his friend told him we did all that stuff and thats all he wants from me is to have sex but, how do i no if he likes me or if he just wants to have sex? PLEASE help!
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The easiest way that I see to know his true feelings would to stop giving him head for awhile. If he stays with you even though he isn't "getting any" that would prove to me he cares about you as a person not just as some girl that he can put his penis into.
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gurl you bdont do nothin wit friends come on. you go wit one and do some wit him then go wit another friend of course he just want sex tell ya the truth i dont blame him alwayz you don't go wit friends cuz friends tell friends things ok.
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well talk to him about it..but dont actually talk to him..i mean like.bring up the sex/head part or w/e..and just be like yah i wanna wait a while..long while..before we do nething..and if he semms a bit uneasy about it..then you notice that hes in it for that. but if he totally agrees and says that when your ready..youll try..then i mean you can get the feeling that he kinda interested in you.and not your body.
and i kno it gunna be like wierd to be like..ohh hey about that sex part..but if he mentions it..i mean yah can kinda get the feeling.
just gotta talk to him.
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just have a long conversation with him and straight out ask him if he likes you or just wants you for what you did with your ex.
he might tell you the truth.
and if not you can tell when they lie
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dump him and see if he wants you back and keep on refusing untill he says why he really wants you back or next time dont have sex with someone.
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Hunnay ! Hard situation. But anyway. If he says he you want to mess around or something. Or is trying to infer that he wants to do some sexual stuff. Then say hey im not ready for that in our relationship. If he says no or gets upset or dissapointed then he probably just wants you for what you did with your ex. But then he also could get mad about it just because he thought you guys were ready. But it depends on how mad he gets. If he gets a little frusterated, then I would give him a little more time. But if he gets really angry I would think he is just using you. I hope I helped sweetie,
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Yeah, guys usually go for the sluts, like you.
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I think the best way to find it out is to take all the sexual stuff out of the picture. Just tell him you want to cool it for a while, if he gets mad and starts avoiding you - then you'll know he was just using you.
He could get mad and still understand and respect your decision, if he does, that should be enough to tell you that he is somewhat into you. Try to suggest doing some other things, see if he is having a fun time with you. If he is.. then it should be okay, and you will be able to tell if he's just faking it to get on your good side to get some later.
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Hate to say this, but most likely he's waiting for sex. Guys talk about that stuff. I personally am a virgin but attend an all guy HS (Im not gay, I have a g/f) anyway, guys talk about that stuff and when he found that out he prob was expecting the same. It eventually breaks down to you. Is he worth it? Do you wanna take the chance? Has he led other girls on before? I know it'll be tough, but its worth it if it stops you from getting hurt.
Hope I helped-
Jeff
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You just need to trust your gut instincts on this.
If he pressures you for sex or gets grumpy and angry when you turn him down then he probably just wants you for sex. If he doesn’t pressure you, respects your boundaries and is alright with waiting then he might like you for more.
In the end it doesn’t really matter if he only wants sex or not. If you feel uncomfortable and can’t trust his affection then you need to end the relationship. You don’t need to be sure of his feelings, your feelings are important and if you are not happy that is a good enough reason to end it.
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