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okay i have cut myself in the past and kinda still do...i am anorexic and get upset easily...when my mom found out i was cutting she said "Dont be a stupid f***"...and i asked to see a therapist and she said i dont need to..she jus doesnt understand...i dont know what to do...i am so anorexic ive lost my period and i am starting to cut again ((along with suicide poems)) and i obviously cant ask her...school counselours dont work..i've tried..please help!
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I agree with most of the people on here.
You really ARENT fat or ugly @ all. there are people much worse off than you, trust me. & when you say things like this, it makes other people, like me feel worse about themselves, because you know you are skinnier & prettier than them.
Have you tried going to your best friend(s)? you know they really do care about you. they will help. & sooner or later, they will find out. better off if you tell them first, because if they find out before you tell them, they might feel like you can't trust them.
I know your family is probably not the best, considering your mom. maybe try talking to your sister though? you never know how much she could help.
As for cutting, its not a good habit. whatever you use, get it out of a place where it will tempt you to cut yourself! be alone as little as possible. believe it or not, your best friend really does like you. she wont mind hanging out with you!! trust me.. but anyways.
poems usually are a good vent for things like this. go for that before starving yourself or cutting. I do/have done it too & it helps.. well it helps me anyways. I have a notebook full of em! just ask & maybe you could see them? hmm well anyways.
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Your not fat or ugly..you need to stop doing this to yourself. you have no reason to cut yourself. If your having guy problems you'll get over it and find another guy..i mean you always do. You constantly complain about like everything and holy crap if your putting something like this on here instead of telling your best friends in the world who arent that happy with you right now then i dont know what to tell ya. If your mother doesnt understand you could at least talk to them but you dont. And holy cow i know you get easily upset...seen it..so im not quite understanding what you want me to help you with if professional counselors cant even help you..but then again im telling you what you need to hear! NOT WHAT YOU WANT TOO!
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You need a buddy that you can call or write to when you feel like cutting yourself. You say your anorexic. Well the first thing is you need to eat. There's alot of things you can do to eat healthy. Eat fruits and veg. Start off slow and then when you feel better. Eat more. The best thing is to eat yogurt and jello. When you feel that your full stop and do something like read or start writing poems that are good and not bad. Things that you want to do or what to try. I hope that I helped .
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find another adult you trust and talk to them becuase you are right, you do need to get some help to be a vibrant healthy happy person again! If you can't find anyone, and you really feel like you may attempt to kill yourself call 1-800-SUICIDE and a trained professional will help you out, and for the love of god eat something so your heart doesn't fail or you become sterile and you die.
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first off, anorexia is a bi*** im not gonna be one of those people who says "oh its so dangerous, don't do that" because that never helps anything.
im not sure how old you are, but if you can drive, or get someone to drive you to a doctor, that would probably be the best thing to do. i know my doctor. has told me if i ever need anything, from help to just someone to talk to about something, to call her. i dunno if you have that option, but it's worth a try.
try putting yourself around friends. spend as little time alone as is possible. i will assume your friends at least know you're anorexic (as it gets kind of hard to hide) and im sure if you ask them to hang out, they will do what they can.
also, i'm not sure if you can talk to your dad, but if it's an option, try it. it can't hurt. or any other family. aunts, uncles, grandparents. they all love you and want you to recover.
it's good that you're trying to seek help, its a big step in the right direction. i hope i helped some. if you ever need someone to talk to, feel free to drop a message in my inbox. :)
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it is a good thing i found this. i myself have been suffering with this problem as well. go to a doctor you sound like you are clinicly depressed and that's not a good thing unless it is taken under control. please go to a doctor most of the time depression is cause by a chemical imbalance they have the meds to fix that. but do go to your doctor as soon as possible. depression is hard to diagnos in teens and is the most common reason for teen suicide. fyi please try to stop cutting yourself!
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girls and boys town national hotline 1-800 448-3000
teen line 1-800-852-8336
you can call those numbers. they're free and you can talk to teens about your problems. i've gone through some of these things, so if you want to talk, IM me at swingxlifexaway7 or e mail me at swingxlifexawayx7@yahoo.com
hope i helped!!
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Yeah...
I don't know what to tell you.
I'm with you, sister. Same.. same thing.
Okay, maybe not exactly the same, but close. I've cut in the past, and I've recently started again. Heavy cutting.. shaving razors, knives, the kind of razors used to clean windows.. I'm not proud of it, but I can say that I know how you feel. Hah, ironically, anorexia is teamed with the cutting for me too. I've lost like five pounds in the last month... which may not seem like a lot, but for a five-foot-nothing girl who weighs around 90 pounds... that's alot. It shows. I haven't lost my period, not yet. But I know how you feel. Hmm... [gets evil look in eyes] I should just continue to not eat in order to not have a period. Woudln't that be nice. ... Just kidding.
Today a class that I'm in went out for brunch at Chick-Fil-A. My boyfriend and my other two best friends were both there. Everyone around me was eating - but not me. My boyfriend and best friends know about the cutting and eating problems. They tried to get me to eat, but their tries were futile. Yesterday I had half of half a chicken sandwich. That's it. Today I've had a piece of toast. That's probably all I'll eat today too. I'm so full right now it's not even funny.
We're in the same proverbial boat.
My mom wouldn't understand if I tried to tell her. She wouldn't let me see a therapist or anything. I doubt she'd call me what your mom did.. though she might say I was full of "it." [You know what "it" is.]
Can I suggest seeing a Pastor? Perhaps a youth pastor? They are trained specially for teens and our life problems. If not a youth pastor, maybe a senior pastor (the guy who preaches every Sunday). I'm... thinking about talking to my pastor. Not my youth pastor, of course, but the senior pastor. He's a little older (like.. oh, say, 30 years or so) and a little wiser.
Confide in a friend. That's what I'm doing. My boyfriend and I ... yeah, we talk a lot. About this. I showed him the cuts on my ankel and shoulder this morning. I think he was pretty astonished, didn't really expect to see it that bad. My best friend, who is a guy, is also someone I turn to alot. He is really supportive and sweet about it. He can really help lift my spirits when I'm down. What I do whenever I REALLLLLLLLY want to cut ... I talk to either my boyfriend or my best friend. If I can't talk to either one of them, then I try to draw, snap a rubber band on the already present cuts or put ice on a specific area of skin (like leg or arm) until it turns red. If none of that works... well, I give in. Which is sad, but I do give in sometimes.
I spent four hours yesterday drawing. One picture. 11x14 inches. I took a picture of my own hand, holding a knife, put the chip in my computer and blew the picture up. I drew my own hand and the knife, added some blood dripping off of the knife onto an ever growing pool of blood on a table. The hand, knife, blood and table were shaded enough to make them appear realistic, but the rest of it - the background - was dark grey. But that was a little dull, so I put in black (I mean BLACK) zig-zagged cut shapes in the background. Like cracks in a wall or something, only smaller, like it was done with .. a knife.
I showed that to my boyfriend too. He said it was so good that it was bad. Haha.. sadly, or ironically, it's one of the best I've ever done. Amazing what you can do when you're depressed, huh?
Poetry is also a good way to express your feelings.
I would confide in a friend or two, and whenever you feel tempted to cut, try snapping rubber bands, singing your favorite songs, reading a funny book (lifting your spirits, you know), calling the friend you confided in, or putting ice on an area of skin.
Try to eat a little something.
Do you have a boyfriend? Try telling him, if you have one. Unless you think he would reject you. Thankfully, my boyfriend is also the best friend I have. I don't hesitate to tell him anything. I love him. But it hurts him when I cut, and when I don't eat, so I'm trying to stop for him.
Other than that, I'm not sure what to say. Other than... well, you're not alone.
God bless,
-FunnyCide
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I have an eating disorder too and ive just started to get help. so i sugest that you go and see your doctor, if you dont have one yet then register. they will tell you all your option and help you. it depends where you live but in the UK you can have free councelling and therapy if your doctor refers you. so try your doctor first.
your doctor may also speak to your mum and explain how dangeorous your condition is.
if you cant get free therapy then talk to your school councellers again, tell them everything about yur condition, if they dont help then i'd have a talk with a school teacher and tell them that they are not giving you the help you need. your life is in danger so it is crutial that someone proffessional helps you.
i wish you well, good luck x
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Hey...i was in the same situation. Email me xxhopelessyxx@hotmail.com ill help you. it took me awhile to stop all of that. i can help you through it..also you can try to go to your family. Try to get your mind off of it. As much as you can..i know its not big advice. but email me. because I cant say everything here.
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Sometimes it is easier to open up to a stranger, You can email me at pvbandfreak@yahoo.com anytime and I promise I will reply and keep anything you say confidential. There are also several support groups on websites like Livejournal, Greatestjournal, and Myspace... And no one will judge you there, and they will support you in anything to try to do whether it is gaining weight or loosing it or stopping self harm. If you use any of the above sites and cannot find a group or community again email me and I will get you the links.
Love,
Kate
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any adult that will listen to you. (aunts, uncles, grandma, friends mom, a school teacher, a close friend, school nurse.) tell anyone! tell them you need help and your mom won't listen. this is serious, so you need to tell someone (besides your mom) and have them help you get help.
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This is a huge problem. Theres always different answers for different type of people. but The school system should have helped. If it hasn't, theres only one thing left, unless your willing to be locked in a mental facitly and I'm sure your not. Even if it would be for the best. you have to fight it yourself. you have to sit down and think to yourself, "why am I doing this?" if theres problems at home what can you do to stop them, and don't please don't ever say there nothing you can do. Theres always someone there to help. If it's boy problems which I doubt but it could be. Don't let it bother you at such a young age. It's not worth it. When food comes into play, it's just as big as cutting. I've heard from so many people that cutting is a "stress reliever" it's not your hurting yourself in a way you don't understand. It takes one slip of the blade and you can hit a major vain. It's all over than, and I know you don't want that for the simple fact your seeking my help. When it comes to not Eating. You have too!! Which is obvious, but your body needs that food. Obviouslu your relizing whats going on. You hair can fall out, or teeth can rot. And the problem with that is that look in the mirror and i don't know if you do, but it's a mind game. they look in the mirror and tell themselves there sitll fat even at 75lbs. Be smarter than that! please for your own sake. It's so improtant to realize that there's a reason everyones on this earth. And even if you were picked to be the avg girl so what. please, stop doing this to yourself. Find the good in yuorself, and in everoyne and everything around you. Focus on school, fid a sport ( not until you get yourself healthy again though) and focus on what your gonna do after school is done. someday you'll realize the mistakes your making now and regret them. Stop now before you have more regrets your taking years off your life. I KNOW YOU DON'T Want that. Please just get yourself the help you, need or do it yourself, which I'm 100% confident your capable of doing. And as for the poems, write down your problems into a poem, and analyze it. Use that as a template to figure out whats going wrong, and fix it the healthy way. good Luck, and be strong, control your life don't any problems take conrtol for you.
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Well, I know that you've already tried achool counselors, but try again. Say, "I am anorexic to the point that I've lost my period. I cut and I get upset easily. I need professional help. My mom says I don't, but I think I do. Can you please help me?" The counselor can probably talk to your mom.
You can't go through this alone. I know you've tried talking to someone, and that you realize what your problem is. That's the first step to getting better.
What exactly caused you to become anorexic and to cut? I'm guessing that you have a low self-esteem, and that can change. I doubt you're overweight or obese. Start eating. No, not stuffing your face with anything you want to. I mean that you should eat healthy. Being healthy includes eating when you're hungry and stopping when you're full. You can treat yourself to a piece of cake or some ice cream once in a while, too.
There are people that love and care for you; don't commit suicide. Don't even think about it. You may think that it ends your pain, but it just hurts the ones that love and care about you.
You can't talk to your mom, and the school counselor still hasn't helped? Ask a teacher or another adult that you trust. YOU NEED HELP. If you've talked to your mom and she can't help you, you need to get help elsewhere. Don't be embarrassed about it; you're NOT ALONE.
I hope I helped, and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
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Is there anyone else in your family to turn to? f your mom wont help you hafve you ever tried to go to a hospital and admit yourself-tell them your mom wont help you and they will help with with your issues and also find out why your mom is neglecting you and what you need and ask for especially when it is this serious. Please let me know if you need anything sweeety-life is already too short you need to live it to the fullest and have fun.
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Okay well you just need to think about the good things in life. I don't mean to sound like ur mom, but like don't be so negitive and try not to think about cutting yourself. Try to eat more and stay healthy and see a doctor for anerexia.
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