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i need help!
well i get really depressed and at school everbody thinks im fine because i front this fake smile and this happy person but deep down inside i really hate myself, my life, my family and everything!!! i act fake for my family too! does anybody have and ideas to help me?? << consalour or theraapist is NOT OPTIONAL>> ( i dont want my family to find out)
also i cut, pop pills and write poemss about sucide and death!
PLZ PLZ PLZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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well to start im exactly like that i still consider i have been having suicidal thoughts since i was 11 and when i put it into action with cutting my parents sent me to a hospital i may sound crazy but i knda liked it but im not sayin to go crazy to get urself there i mean that i know counselers dont really help and its hard i still do think about myself dead and what would it be like if i were dead but i think that if you find somthing to cope with like a pet or something i think youll be fine
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okay...you need to calm down...and although you don't want your family to find out they really need to. If you are really writing poems about suicide and death you really are in danger of hurting yourself. Believe me, I know from experience that it is so much easier to share your feelings than keeping to yourself. If you really feel like talking to your parents friends or a therapist is not an option try to figure out why you feel the things you do...write in a journal daily...when you are upset write why. This may seem kinda stupid, but believe me it helps. Also maybe you could go to a school counseler, you could talk to them and ask if they would keep your meeting private. Hope this helped!!! <3
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I understand how you feel. It is just easier to fake a smile and say "I'm fine" then it is to explain to people how you feel. You didn't say how old you are but I'm asumimg that you are a teenager. And being a teenager is one of the toughest part of life. WHO YOU ARE IN HIGH SCHOOL IS NOT WHO YOU WILL ALWAYS BE! I wish someone had told me that when I was in 9th grade. High school is only 4 years and the years go fast, I wasted 2 of them hating everything around me. Start with confiding in a close friend that you can trust, but do not overwhelm them with everything you do and are feeling at once it will scare the hell out of them. If you don't want to talk to a friend You could always email me at Pvbandfreak@yahoo.com or
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sometimes it is easier to open up to a stranger then it is to talk to some one you know.
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PLEASE GO TO A COUNSELOR. Ask your counselor to keep it to his or herself since you don't want your parents to find out. Why are you so unhappy anyways???? The cutting isn't going to help with depresion AT ALL, the pills my friend will kill you, and the poems are plain crazy. They wont help either. Try to keep yourself occupied and think of happy fun things that have happened before. Try to hang out with your friends unless they have the same problem, they wont help keep your mind off of depression. Good luck.
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okay..people always are depressed..its normal.
but cutting isnt gonna help..itll just make you more depressed cuz you wont look as good with all the cuts and scars.
pills..VERY BAD..they can kill you and your young so try not to have any.when your about to, just get icecream or sumthing.
the poetry..it wont do anything bad..but i mean dont you have better things to do? when im depressed i go outside..and i play basketball or take a long walk or sumthing..try that..and also the poetry is just gonna make you more depressed because then your mind just brings back bad memories..
and you need to find someone you REALLY trust. i think its wrong that you keeping it from your family. once you spill it out to someone..youll feel better.
and a theropist..yea i agree with you..i mean its emberassing telling them stuff.ha.
also, dont worry, everyone gets depressed.
hope i helped!
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Regardless of your age, you should be able to get confidential counselling. You can see what your school offers, make an appointment with your doctor, or see if there are any local practices.
Your school might have an obligation to let your parents know you are attending counselling, but they will not pass on the information you share with a counsellor. A counsellor you access independent of the school will be completely confidential.
And why not consider finding a few people you don't have to always be smiling with? It's part of human nature to smile, but it's also part of human nature to be angry, cry, or feel anxious. It's okay to feel the way you feel, but constantly keeping part of yourself hidden away can only make things worse.
A way to heal yourself is to share yourself with other people; this can best be managed with professional help, but you can also start by writing more poetry, keeping a journal, etc.
Life is more than feeling depressed, and if you are willing to reach out to other people it's the first step towards being able to express all that you are.
Talking to your parents might not be a bad idea - when you are ready - because they may be able to support you in emotional and practical ways. You deserve to recognize the good in yourself, your life, and your relationships with other people.
I wish you the best.
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yep, you're emo too, aren't you? maybe you should stop cutting yourself and stop writing poetry. its pointless and embarassing. try doing something positive for a change, like joiing the army. if not, then you'll eventually realize that the emo culture is not your style and start listening to npr talk radio.
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I think that you need to tell someone about this like one of your best friends, you know like let everything out because what you need is some time to talk to a person very important to you. Just try and take things slowly without hurting yourself.
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OK. I have so been where you are, just way too early for any nomral person. I think your school counselor might be ok, but if you tell them the word suicide, they totally freak out. If you have a really great frined, talk to them, my griend went through all that stuff and even cut herslef up pretty bad, I went over to her house and she hadn't even cleamed the blood yet, and she didn't care too, and I was fine with that, cuz I love her. you gotta have someone you trust completely and is laid back. I don't want to keep asking question, because that seems dumb, since you asked the question huh? Just think about why cetain things make you unhappy, and why you have to keep up a front. If you want to talk to me it perfectly fine, if you don't no big deak, just talk to someone. My e-mail is dochollidaychick@yahoo.com, hope you find your answer soon.
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email me please
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the question is: WHY are you unhappy? im sure you don't really know it yourself, but try to analyze it. the best way to do that is to write. i don't know if you write a diary or an online journal, but it would help trumendously. just write about your feelings and thoughts. then try to think: what is it that makes you unhappy? is it your family? yourself? your friends? school? your past? i know it seems like you hate everything in life, but in reality there must be one problem that's causing all the rest. that's what therapists actually do - they help you find out what your problem is. once you realize what it is, analyze further - why does it bother you? is there anything you can change about your life that might help the problem?
this is not really helpful, i know... but if you don't plan to see a therapist, the best way to substitute that is to write you thoughts down and analyze your feelings.
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talk to a school counselor. they keep everything to themselves. ive been there so many times with my problems and theyve always resolved everything.
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I know that you said that a councelor wouldnt help, but usually, if you talk to the councelors at school and let them know that you dont want your parents to know that you're meeting, they'll usually give you te help you need. I'm giving you the best advice that I can and I really hope that you work this whole thing out!
I hope I helped
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