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strange relationship...
Okay so this kid pretty much took my virginity last year-ish, and we dated for a couple weeks. Since then we've hooked up multiple times, causing him to cheat on his girlfriends at the time, nobody ever found out. Then last summer his girlfriend found out and they stayed together etc, and everything was resolved and they broke up for a while and him and I hooked up. So basically they're back together because he took her virginity too, but I'm the only girl he's ever cheated on her with, and it's not like I'm sprung off him or anything, I don't really even like him like that anymore, we're just friends as far as I'm concerned and we tend to mutally hook up occasionally. So the other day at this thing for school I was having a bad day, and he let me cry on his shoulder and stuff, then we went off to "talk" somewhere and he started kissing me and stuff, I feel really really bad about it for some reason and he's really giving me mixed signals. Is he interested in me again, has he never lost feelings or did he just want a hookup?
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well, this is a very complicated situation. Since you guys did hook up, there will always be some emotion between you two, whether it be love, friendship, or just sexual urges. But the fact that he has cheated on his past girlfriends with you is a little odd. He obviously has more than that "JUST FRIENDS" feeling towards you. I personally think he is interested in you as more than friend. But i think it would be best to wait until he breaks up with his current girlfriend because that will only bring in more drama. I hope it works out. If you need anymore advice, just ask =].
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He just wants to hookup. If he cared about you he would be dating you.
I hate to say it but he will be "friends" so long as you put out. Cut him off and just see how long he sticks around.
Have a little self respect. You are worth more than the occasional roll in the hay. Find someone who cares for you and respects you.
This guy cheats on girlfriends and uses you whenever he can. He is a loser. :)
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Hey,,, ok well to me it looks like he still has at least a little feelings for you but hes just confused, because i dont think he would cheat on his girlfriend(s) with you for no reason. Well hope i helped.
Xoxo,
NeVer_Noticed
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Sometimes you cant really tell what guys want. Its seems like he wants to just hook up for his own personal pleasure. If wanted more than that wouldnt he be with you not his other g/f you seem like like the better person but i think you should be with someone that you like alot. If you felt guilty then that means you didnt feel comfortable this time knowing that he had a g/f because you were caught. Before you did it b/c you knew you wouldnt get caught but now your unconscious feels like if you do it you will get caught again. I am not being rude or snobby if that is the way it sounds.
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Sounds like this guy never had feelings besides horny and always just wanted to hook up. It's nice that he is kind to you, but pretty clear he isn't interested in a relationship, because if he was why would he be back with his girlfriend and still just using you on the side after so many chances?
If this is how you want to live your life, fine, but don't fool yourself into thinking this guy cares for you, you are a booty call, nothing else.
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this is how his mind works:
you=sex emotional imbalance=opportunity
he saw an opportunity for sex, so he pursued it.
he may be running on a different formula, but thats how most other guys (including myself) work.
-gunner
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if he has taken more than 1 girls virginity, and has also had people on the side, their is no way this guy cares. he was just using you weekness (crying on his shoulder) and used it as a power (kissing you). if he was really intrested, he would'nt be cheating. You say that you dont even really like him that anymore, so just tell him that he needs to try and find a girl that he is relly intrested in. if you really are intrested in him, and you feel that you 2 should get back togehther, just tell him- "hey, i like you, and if you wanna go out with me, you can't have another girl on the side." if he refuses, he ither likes the other girl better, or he's just a natural cheater. hope this helped.
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I dont think hes sending you mixed signals. It sounds like he thinks you're sending mixed signals to him, and hes confused. I suggest you stay put. Dont make a move on him. Wait till he makes one on you. Then if he keeps sending mixed signals ask him if he has feeling for you.
♥ Melissa
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This guy is playing both of you, he deserves to be alone. Then again, so do you for making him cheat on his girlfriend. Then again, so does she for not dumping him. And what do you mean he 'pretty much took your virginity'? Did he give it back or something?
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It sounds like hes confused. Dont fall for it. If you keep lettin him hook up with you when he wants hell think youll always be there when he wants a toy. I dont know ur relationship with him, but it sounds like hes using you. Im suree you can find someone who doesnt just use you when he wants. he obviously wants the both of use, but he cant have it, so tell him that its either he wants you or her. If he does pick you then he still cares about you, if not you know hes not a good boyfriend or a truee friend!
Hope I helped.
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