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Cheating
ok iv been going out w/ this guy for a month and a few weeks ill call him jim well my neighbor ill call him bob comes over sometimes not very much now that im going out w/ jim bob comes over like 1 or twice a month me and bob have done stuff in the past cuz he kept on preasuring me until i say yes i make up excuses but they never work we had like a no strings attatched thing going on though and im afraid im gonna cheat on jim w/ bob cuz like its hard for me to say no and bob is always preasuring me to do stuff w/ him what r some good ways to say no to bob!!
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The best way is to stay out of situations where you may feel pressure to hook up with "bob" like if he askes if you want to hang out, tell him you have other plans, but then try to make other plans with a friend or with "jim" and also don't do anything that would make him think you like him, or like hooking up with him. :)
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You could start by placing periods at the ends of sentences. Giant run-on sentences are hard to read. Just tell Bob that you're with Jim now, he had better understand. He doesn't have much of a choice without doing illegal stuff, so just step up. Take some responsibility for the things you do.
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dont let bob in your house so that way you dont have to make up exuses .. or if you like bob and wanna do things with him then break up wit jim .. but most likey bob come knockin on your door just dont answer it
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Why are you even friends with this neighbor? You shouldn't be doing the no strings attached or the friends with benefits thing. Its nothing but a big mind game. Now look what you've got yourself into. It wasn't worth it, because now you feel stuck with him, but even if you swore on your own grave that you'd never stop doing the "no strings attatched" game, you aren't stuck doing it. If Bob is pressuring after you said no about 3 times, tell Bob to go home. If he can't take no for an answer, he needs to go home to show him that you're serious. You owe him no explaination, he knows you have a boyfriend now, that should be enough to know why you've stopped. You don't need nice ways to say it. The best way to say it is, "no Bob, quit asking" and if he keeps on, say, "Bob, you obviously aren't listening, so, I want you to leave now." Even if you want to continue doing this with Bob, get rid of Jim first, but I think you are way better off ending this game with Bob.
-TheTeenGirl
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Sounds like "bob" is either
1.) very intimidating
2.) very appealing
and probably
3.) very controlling
yikes! there are a couple of things you can do if you feel like you don't have the will to say no to bob. If you're certain you want to be with jim and not bob don't let bob over to your house unless someone else is there. Say your parents, or even jim! And introduce jim to bob. make sure bob knows jim's your guy, and your alllll his! And worst case scenario, if bob ends up at your house or somewhere else where he could pressure you, try to avoid being alone with him. If he makes a pass, just say you're hungry and get something to eat, suggest something else, even like a board game or something, just so long as you guys aren't alone. I hope I have helped you. :)
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Sounds like youre just Bobs booty call.
You have a bf, you need to tell Bob to look else where for his needs.
Cant you see that you are just being used?
No guy should pressure a girl into doing anything!
How would you like it if the tables were turned and your bf was the 1 with the chick on the side?
I think you really need to take a good look at yourself and your situation, because from where we're standing, your not lookin too good.
Sorry, but dont you feel like "Bobs" ho?
If you want to stuff with both, then there should be No strings attached with either guy!!
Good Luck!!
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You could try being firm and saying "Look, I have a boyfriend and I can't do this stuff anymore" that way I don't see how he could still make you do stuff. If that doesn't work then bob is being pretty inconsiderate so maybe telling him that he cant come over anymore if hes going to act like that everytime.
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Look Bob in the eye and firmly but kindly tell him that although things used to be "No strings attached," you're now involved with someone else & are no longer interested in what you two had previously, and that you dislike him pressuring you for things you don't want.
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