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cousin's husband- something wrong
okay this is a big problem. My cousin Kim who is really important to me got married for the second time to this guy john. Well, before this my cousin and I were really close even though I live in Ny and she lives in Pa. we always wrote to each other and called each other and all that. I guess I should tell you that she has four kids, her two oldest are from her fist marriage and then the third child christopher is from this guy that she was dating before she married john and then she just had nicholas with john not too long ago. Anyway, I just found out that he has been beating on christopher and he has bruises all over him and he tells him to go to bed cause the boogey man is going to come get him and he is only 3. well my cousin's mom noticed the bruises and her husband went and talked to john about it and after that the kids stopped going over there to be babysat. Then I found out that john kicked my cousin down the stairs when she was pregnant with nicholas and he has hit her and thrown stuff at her. also they got in a car accident, my cousin, john, christopher and nicholas. and for some reason I think it was planned, cause john was driving. I don't know what to do. I am so worried about her and I have tried emailing her and writing her a letter and I haven't heard anything back yet. I can't call her cause I don't have her phone number and pretty much noone in my family does. I can't get a hold of her sister. I am so worried about her and all I think about is the next phone call I get will be saying she's dead or seriously injured because of him. HELP please.
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What a horrible situation. I'd just have the urge to call the police and tell them myself if my family wasn't willing to. There are children being beat, and scared to go to sleep. What evil people, and if your cousin keeps letting this happen, shes being evil to her children. She needs to get out, and if she won't or can't get out, its time for you or someone in your family to step up and make her get out. Ask an adult family member to help her, your parent, your guardian, tell them how bad and worried you are about where your cousin's life is going. This is torture, espcially to those kids. Keep asking and telling them until they promise to do something. This is a big concern for lives in serious danger, and you're right, with all of those guys shes married, or just dated, could kill her. I really want you to send me an inbox and tell me what you did, I really need to hear from you about this and want you to help your cousin's family.
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okay.looks like you've got a serious problem on your hands!oki dokie ,so looks like youhave really gone througha lot trying to get to her ,well. first things first,do your parents know ,if they dont definatley tell them.
once your parents know (or already know)insist continuelly until you get the answer that you want ,demand that you go see your cousin and make sure that she is okay,or get a family member that lives close by your cousin to go and make sure that she and he kids are all okay...if that works and yet your cousin and her kids are still being abused,call the cops and tell your cousinto get a restraining order aginst John.......do the best you can to get a hold of your cousin..i know that you can do !
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dana
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Report the child abuse to the your cousin's local HDR department. You should be able to look it up on the web. I think you are right to worry, but in most states unless the abused spouse reports the abuse, the police will not do anything about that. Children are another matter entirely. HDR has to look into reports, but they aren't often very good. Keep after them, write to people around your cousin and encourage them to get involed in the children's lives. I hate to say there is not much you can do. If you can get a background chack on the guy it may help, but I'm not sure how you can go about gettingone. Good luck.
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If you truly believe the kids and her are being abused you might try calling the social services department in the town they live in. Report that the children and your cousin could be getting abused. Hopefully they will look into it.
Your cousin probably isn't going to say anything. She either loves the guy or is afraid of what he might do.
Here is a website. I don't know how helpful it will be, but it may give you some ideas. It has helplines you can call in all the states. Lists places that could be of help. Good luck.
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You should either talk to your aunt and see if she has the new number. If she doesn't then try to get a hold of her friends and asking them because someone has the number you just need to find out who. As far as your cousin is concerned I am surprised that she doesn't try to leave John because no one should have to put up with a guy like that who abuses her kids. I hope that I helped but if not you can visit me at my column.
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