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Ok, my name is Adrianna and i'm fifteen. And I (Obviously) need some help. See, people at my school think i'm a poser. And it really pisses me off. Because I have NEVER talked to any of the people that call me it. So they base it all on the way I dress. Call me crazy but, I have always bought things based on if I liked them or not. So I shop everywhere. Hot topic, Abercrombie and Fitch, JCPennys, hell even the thrift store if I really like it. So like, I want people to understand that i'm not trying to be something, i'm not trying to be a "Punk" or a "Prep" I could honestly give a shit less. I understand that not everyone is going to like you but, it really upsets me that people don't like me based on the clothes I wear. I don't know what to do. I want these people to just stop.
Ugh, I know this is stupid and cliched. So bear with me.
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Sounds like these people are way jealous of you. If they dont even KNOW you and are giving you a hard time, then they're jealous. They'll stop if you totally ignore them and don't let it piss you off. Just walk past and maybe even smile. That'll get them quiet if nothing will. Keep shopping at the same places and just be you. If they dont like it, then that's their problem. Still sounds like they're jealous, maybe see that as a compliment. Hope i helped.
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Okay, the best thing to do is just deal. You know those idiots are wrong, so try not to care. To me a poser is not someone who wears certain clothes. It is someone who cares so much what other people think that they try to change themselves. If you show that you care about their dumb opinions you are just proving them right. So stop caring what other people think and be an individual.
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The best thing is to ignore them.
If your happy with the way you are then why should you let other people get to you?
It can be at frustrating at times when they judge on appearances but this is simply because of they do not know you.
You can try to be friends with them and prove them wrong about what they thought about you or you can just forget about them and get on with your life.
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1."i'm not trying to be a "Punk" or a "Prep" I could honestly give a shit less."
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2."I understand that not everyone is going to like you but, it really upsets me that people don't like me based on the clothes I wear. I don't know what to do. I want these people to just stop."
aperently you do care huh..to me i really dont think you "could give a shit less"
if you really didnt care what people thought..you wouldnt be worrying about it OR asking this question..
from what i read though..im assuming their right..
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You can't really make people in school understand that you aren't something they are saying you are. If you know that you aren't a poser, you should be happy with that and ignore the comments or rumors that head your way about you. I know I make it sound easy, but if people see that you could really care less what they are talking about that week, they'll find a new story the next week. Theres no reason to list what you wear, if you know that you aren't something the school claims you are, then you aren't. Only you would know whether you're trying to be something or not. I know sometimes it gets hard to not ignore, but as long as you don't show anger or concern with the rumors. Just act like you're laughing and say, "you mean I'm actually being talked about at this school? I'm noticed?" And go along with your day.
-TheTeenGirl
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I know what how your feeling. Basically, its just a part of high school, people start to label others. Why dont you try and start talking to some of the people that call you a "poser". I think that if you are nice to everyone and dont get caught up in the drama, then things will work out. Usually as people start getting older, they get more mature and will not be so judgemental. I hope i have helped you some. Good luck!
Sarah
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fuck them.do your friends like you or the people u really care about.they areall who matter.its not yo fault theydint shop
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People are so dumb when they do that. In my school they call people who begin to like skateboarding posers, when they really just like skateboarding. In any school you will probably find assholes that say stupid stuff about other people because of how they dress. Most likely, the people who make fun of you are probably jelous of the clothes you wear because, there probably nicer, and make them look bad lol.There are always going to be people out there that just like bugging people for popularity or because they are bored. If someone bothers you again about it just be like, you can think what you want to but, i really couldnt care. Good Luck.
~Brina
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People shouldn't judge you on how you dressed. Its not fair to you!! If you want to shop at Hot Topic, and Abercrombie, and even the thrift store that should be fine with them!! It all depends on what you like. I have alot of friends like that who wear anything they want!! It doesn't matter what people say. If you want to be friends with those people though, then go up and get to know them. If you get to know them, then they'll get to know you. And they'll start to relize your not a poser!!
If you wanna talk to me, or tell me my advice sucks (lol) IM me at samarawntstoast.
~Melissa~
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People can be very petty.
You've found the joys of being a teen, basically. Your peers feel the need to label things - to make the world into easier-to-digest chunks. That includes ranking people into categories. And they'll base this on the stupidest of things - in your case, your clothing is under attack.
You have two choices - you can let them ruin your life and make you miserable, or you can blow off these losers and do what you want to do.
Next time one of them tries to label you, try something crazy like, "Oh shit! I thought I was goth! Damnit!" or, "no no... you've got it all wrong, I'm going for the post-modern Bavarian shepard look... don't tell me you haven't heard about that, right?", or better yet, "really? I thought I was just wearing clothes... my bad..."
Seriously, when people try to attack others to make themselves feel better, don't take the beating, nor should you fight back... blow it off, laugh it off, and move on. If you dwell on it too much, you'll find yourself becoming just as petty as they are, and I can't imagine that you want that, right?
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