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ILL RATE 5'S NO MATTER WHAT!
I met this guy last week who was really interested in me but I wasn’t as interested in him(I was “talking” to one of his friends). Well we hooked up that weekend and told me he likes me. He called me everyday this week and I started to realize I liked him too and he asked me out on Thursday. Well we hung out this weekend and I started to REALLY like him but he didn’t treat me like a girlfriend at all. When we were with his friends he showed no affection whatsoever but when we were alone he would hug me and hold my hand and stuff. I talked to one of his best friends about it and he told me he would talk to him. On Saturday night my boyfriend called me and told me we should go back to just “talking” because he felt we were moving too fast and that going out with someone is a big step to him. I talked to his best friend and his best friend told me that he was the kind of guy who only showed affection when him and his gf are alone. He told me that my bf still really likes me but wants to slow things down. We were supposed to hang out on Sunday even though we aren’t goin out(he said we are still going to talk and hang out) but he called me and pretended like we never made plans of hanging out. I don’t know what I should do because I really like him (I’ve dated many guys this summer/school year but I’ve liked him the most and I think it’s because I feel like we actually connect).. should I go after him even though he could be leading me on? Or should I just forgot about him even though maybe we can make things work out?
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I would suggest just doing what you think is right. If you want to chase after him - go for it. If your heart is telling you no - back off. I personally think that you like him enough to chase him but do what you want hon =)
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well if you both like eachother- go for it...he might be holding back because he dosnt want to mess it up...just take it slow like hangout with groups and dont put pressure on him to hang out all the time...just chilllll...haha...if you 2 both feel the connection it will happen eventually..and he will realize how much he likes you when he sees that you are willing to go on with the relationship even if its slower than you want...♥
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Since this guy is someone you really like you should go after him and try to make things work out with him definitely.This guy is someone understandable,reasonable don't you like the fact that he likes keep things going slow or would you rather want him to speed things up?I would suggest to be patient when you think you have spend enough time together then speak to him about getting into making out,and stuff like that.Another thing you should know is some guys don't like kissing their girlfriend in front of their friends but not because they don't like their girlfriend but because they don't feel comfortable.
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how old are you two? I'm guessing maybe high schoolish. I'm asking this because there's always that age group or stage where dating is just new or very awkward.
If this is the case, then I would just take it slow just like the guy is asking. You two will warm up to each other, but if that doesn't happen atleast your relationship didn't really take off.
I really think you don't have much to lose, other than time. You like him, he likes you... he probly is just nervous and needs to ease into this. Of course, there's such a thing as waiting too long, but that's up for you to decide. I would probly wait 1-2 months max.
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It sounds like you may have intimidated him when you talked to his friend instead of him. If you had a problem with him not being affectionate in front of his friends, then you should have gone directly to him. Most guys would prefer it that way. And another thing. Guys aren't really affectionate in front of their friends. It's just the way they are. I know some guys such as the 'emo' ones are... they're very lovey dovie... but most guys tend to shy away from that for fear of being called a pansy. But you said he was affectionate when y'all were alone... that means he does indeed like you... you only had to worry if he wasn't affectionate at all. I think you should at least talk to him about it... and if he wants to take things slow, then take them slow... it'll be worth it, if you like him as much as you say you do. Just like girls... guys don't like to be pushed to do things they don't want to.
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Its rare for a guy to want to take things slow..maybe hes scared and insecure..maybe it would be a good idea to talk about it to him more often instead of through his friend, when sumthing bugs you, dont pretend it doesnt let him know
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Don't force someone to like you. Like he says take things slow you have your whole life ahead of you . Start off as friends. If you really care about him and want things to work out, take it slow, or he may head in the other direction and you don't want that
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Some guys (and girls) are just shy about showing their affection in public. That may be the case here. It isn't something to worry about. Go talk to him and get it all worked out. It probably embarrassed him when his friend talked to him about it. :)
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