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mom doesn't trust me
k well i had plans with this friend of mine today and i just phoned my mom to see if i could go to his house and she asked who was gonna be there and i said no one so she said no. so then we got in this big argument and she said she'd 'talk' to me when she got home cause she didn't want me to be the only girl there. but she doesn't understand that me and him are friends.. how do i make her let me have opposite gender friends?
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Your mom was probably worried cuz she didn't know the kids -. So first have him over to YOUR house so she can meet him- the first time you go over to his house- go over when his parents are home- once your mom warms up- she'll have total faith that you'll make the right choice because of all the responsible steps you took before!
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have him come over your house a couple of times when your mom is home. she'll begin to see that you're only friends and stuff. my mom was the same way with my friend ben. i've known him since kindergarden and i had him over a couple times when she was home to show that we were just friends and now she lets me hang out with him at his house. all mothers of teenage girls are like that. i know what you're feeling. just dont complain or throw a fit...that will just be saying "i'm not mature enough to be trusted with a guy". so follow what i said and you'll be fine. good luck!
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my mom and dad are exactly the same way. whenever i go over someones house its always "whos gonna be there (first and last names), what are you gonna be doing (an exact schedule), and there better not be any kinda kissing going on" give me a break. heres what you need to do.. put yourself in your moms shoes.. how would you feel if you thought your daughter was goin around doing god knows what with guys (even though youre not with this guy). so now that you kinda have a feeling of how your mom feels go and talk to her. be like.. mom you need to understand that me and this guy are just friends and i need you to trust me. and tell her that you understand where shes coming from but you think its unfair to just assume that you and this guy are more than just friends. remind her of when she was a teenager and put her in your shoes. good luck
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you're not gonna like this but your mom is right. unsupervised time with no structure will always lead to trouble... eventually. have him come over your house and play by mom's rules. Then when you are a little older she'll trust you more, simply because you did as she wished without giving her a hard time about it.
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invite him over when your mom is home and she will realize that he is a good kid and friend. my mom only trusts my guy friends that she knows...and loves them. it will work.
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K..I would make it a point to her that you have no interest in him in the way she thinks you do. But, that's probably not all she wants to hear. Tell her that he doesn't have any interest in you that way either. Tell her that you just wanted to hang out with a FRIEND, and if it would make her feel more comfortable, she can drive you there and meet him. Be firm and remind her that you are a responsible young lady who makes good, not stupid choices. If worse comes to worse, suggest to her that you hang out with him AND some other friends somewhere else. Good Luck! Hope I helped!
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