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Cutting and Eating disorder
ok well im 14 and i have been a cutter since i was 12. im also anorexic. i have been since i was like 10. i also have trouble eating infront of people, when i have to eat. i just get nervous and very self concious when i eat around other people. even my parents. im 4'10" and i currently weigh 94 lb. i want to get over my cutting and eating disorder SO BAD! i have tryed forever but just run back to them. i think about suicide a lot, espically after this year. this year i lost a lot of friends. 2 died in a car accident on the same day and 4 killed themselves. it has affected me badly.
now i am addicted to cutting. i cant feel the pain anymore. no matter how much or how deep i cut. ive tryed the rubber band thing but it doesnt work. if you have any ideas on how to stop then please answer. i rate high.
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i can understand you. i dont have anorexia but i have been through the cutting thing. so i will give you my opinon on that.
i started cutting in yr8. but i was able to stop for 2 years. then about 6 months ago i started doing it really bad and got heaps addicted. i wont say that i am totally over it, but i am getting there.
i can't say that there is any trick to stopping or any miracle. but everytime you feel tempted there are so many things you can do. i have an email of 151 things to do instead of SI so i can send you that if u would like, and anyone else too.
you havta be strong and really rely on friends to be a support. i have one friend who i can ring at 3am if i feel tempted.
think about it, what i cutting going to do? make you feel better for a few minutes when there are other options that can make you feel better for long terms. and as you go on and dont cut for longer periods of time you start to feel a lot better within yourself too. days can turn into weeks, and weeks months etc etc. and each day and each week makes you feel even better.
i hope this helped...if not i'm letting you know you're not alone, k?!
~*Nadia*~
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well...i really think you should stop cutting its not the answer...even though i dont know you i still dont want you to do this because you could end up killing your self even if you didnt meen to when you were cutting...if i feel this way and i dont even know you emagin how the people that care about u and love you would feel if they found out...you really cant controll what happens to other people such as the friends you lost killing them selves or getting killed...you shouldnt take it out on your self..really cutting is a horrible thing to do you should really stop...when ever you feel like you need to cut resist it...you may think it helps but really its only making things alot worse...about your eating disorder...for a someone who is 4'10" and only weighs 94lbs is deffently not fat at all...if you think your fat then exsersize dont stop eating...run a little more go to a gym dont stop eating...you should really start eating again...everytime you think to your self "i'm fat" make a list of atleast 10 good things about your self. trust me it works...i used to think i was fat and thats what i did and now im fine with my self...also to build up self confidence ask people if they think your fat im sure they will say no...94lbs doesnt sound soud fat at all...alot of people probley wish they weighed 94lbs...think of your self as "lucky"...because really if you weigh 94lbs you are lucky...be happy with what you have!!
>>>im sooo sry this is soo long but i really think you needed alot of help with this(i hope it helped!!!)
<3 samXoXsam
if you ever need to talk you can IM me on sammygirl1023
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okay first of all I am going to tell you what you told me not to, you do need to get help. But there are ways of doing it that won't be bad. If you have a really really close friend, tell her, maybe she could help you through it. Remember people love you and if you killed yourself, you never know you could just drive them to do it themselves. Is their guidance conselers at your school? At mine you can go and talk to them and be completly anonyomous. They might be able to help you.
I am sorry if this doesn't help you at all, but please don't kill yourself.
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I know exactly what you feel. im sad to say i had the exact problems from 12-14. my advice to both of those problems would be find a good friend, who you can call and talk to everytime you feel like cutting. Instead of cutting, talk to them. It really helped me. Anoerxia.. is a difficult situation, i got involved at school in sports, and thats how i had to eat or i knew i'd get sick and end up in the hospital. anoerxia is a tough disease, but i have faith in you to beat as i did. By the way, your not alone, almost every girl between the ages of 12-16 cut themselves at least once in those years. email me hutter08@yahoo.com if you need any help or support. good luck. hope i helped.
<33 Kim
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First off, I'm not surprised that the rubber band thing failed. I'll explain below.
I believe that the second step to recovery (After admitting you have a problem, which you did), is to know exactly what is causing the problem. See, your body makes a substance a lot like heroin when it feels physical pain. You cut, it gets released in high doses. These high doses are addicting, and you begin to crave them. The rubber band fails because it is still asking for doses, and the only way to stop an addiction is to just stop.
That also explains anorexia, as hunger is a type of pain. That's the physical addiction, and you can get over that in 2 days. Same with the cutting. The mental one is what can take months to complete.
Now, what do you do? First thing I'd do, since you cannot tell your parents, is stop. Easier said than done. What you do is stop for 1 day, and only believe it is a one day thing. Hide any sharp object from yourself, and use alternatives. Such as if you feel anger, punch a pillow. If you feel sad, take a bath. If you want to see blood, draw on yourself with a red pen. The first day is always the hardest.
Then, after one day, reward yourself in a method such as buying a shirt you've wanted. Then, go online and find a support group for cutting. There is one at www.teenhelp.org, but that is mainly for problems. You can find sites specifically dedicated to supporting cutters through an internet search. DO NOT CUT ON DAY 2!
On day 3, I'd suggest you find someone you know and can trust, preferably an adult. This should not be someone who would tell your parents, and make them promise it before you talk to them. Let them know what is going on, and ask for their advise on what to do.
Reward yourself as I said before, even if it sounds stupid, for the first 5 days. Then, go every other day for 10 days. Every 3rd for 15, and you've made a month. Keep in contact with support. I'll be here to support you at all times, I can be contacted at sbloemeke2@yahoo.com
I apologise for not being truely able to help with anorexia, but I think that if you go to your parents and say "I feel thin. I want to put on some weight. Please, just make sure I eat a full meal at every meal", it should work. If you eat alone, you have to make sure of it.
The nervousness of eating in front of people is a fear. I don't know the name, but you fear eating in front of others. And the only way to overcome a fear is to accept it and face it. Accept that you have this fear, and force yourself to eat in front of others, even if it's the last thing you do. If you feel like turning back, think "This is for my own good".
Hope this helps!
-Steven
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First of all, if you are 4'10" and 94lbs, you're not anorexic. your bmi is 19.6. You're perfect. You probably just have anxiety around people.
I KNOW you don't want to hear this and you say this isn't why you came to advicenators, but you need to go to a therapist. It's simple as that. You don't even need to tell them about you're cutting (I didn't...I just had really bad depression, I got better). But if you did tell them about you're cutting, you might get even more better. But you really need to get help. I went through the same thing. The exact same thing. And I'm still struggling. I'm starting to have problem with food now. But I have the will to get better. And I'm sure you do too, you just need someone to help you.
If you need to talk about cutting/depression or anything, please IM me AIM: fatalxhaerts (not misspelled)
good luck hun!
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ok im so sorry for you situation i kno how you feel in like a different yet equal way...my grandmothers, my mother ,my dog, my friends because, and my because all died in the course of a half a year.........my mom was the most recent to pass away it just happened on july 21st '05 .....i used to be a cutter but then i realize "where does that get you"...babe if you really wanna lose the pain then just kill yourself, there is no way around it. My cousin brianna is a cutter now and she almost died.....even though i dont like her all that much she had my heart in my throat..see you may think things just keep gettin worse and they could possibly be doing just that and you might not think so but there are people that care about you and support things you do and if you are that much of a coward to try to leave this place and those who care about you then go ahead ....tonight i will be praying for you and even though i dont personally no you your question was a sign for help and a sign that you are not going to turn your back on this world and the people around you and i respect you and if there is anythin i could possibly do for you im always right here...
hope i helped and sorry it was long
>>>>>arielleā„...ps my screenname is esly69distracted hunn or email me at Lolabunni10@aol.com
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I know no matter what anyone says, nothing can ever change an addiction or the way you feel. a few years ago when i was a freshman in highschool, my gooooood friend (we'll call her sally) and i got involved in helping out with the varsity boys team equipment and stuff for things to do after school, a boy on the team went out with her for a while and she's the type to get real trusting real fast.. too fast. they broke up and she started cutting. it broke my heart because i couldn't do ANYTHING to help her stop. I wanted to make her feel better but the absolute onlyyyyyyyy thing that made her feel better was to cut herself. After she did, she felt ashamed though. She would hide it under a adidas arm sweat band or a long sleeved shirt. Friends started catching on and whispering, it just ruined her life even worse, the hole just got deeper and she couldn't find a way out. I was the only one who understood how she felt and didnt scold her for cutting. I understood that self affliction was her way of a release of tension. It was her thing. Maybe its your thing. your way of dealing with the numerous losses in your life. I can't tell you how to live your life because I'm a complete stranger to you, but I have helped my friend *sally before, she stopped cutting herself and yah she did the rubber band thing but friends and family stepped in and private counseling sessions helped her work her way to getting better. Maybe that is something you could possibly try to help your addiction? It sounds scary to think that you might need someones help to get over this, someone other than another teen on advicenators, but its true hun. what would your family do if you ever cut too deep? how would your friends act? you'd just be another to kill themselves.. one more gone.. You're too young to have to deal with this much pain, and i can tell you're beautiful by the way you wrote your question. Maybe that is another way to ease the pain. writing. Its just an idea. as for your anorexia.. thats another thing that you can't get over quickly by yourself. im sure a ton of people have told you this but.. everyone eats, its normal. you can't survive without it babe.. try and keep ur chin up hun and if you need absolutely anything dont hesitate to ask, i promise i will try my best to help you out sweetie. Its hard, but it can't hurt to try.
I'm very sorry about the losses in your life.
Goodluck with everything, hope i helped.
-brittany
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Do your parents know your cutting yourself and that your anorexic? If they dont, then you really need to talk to them because keeping everything inside doesn't help. Cutting yourself and being anorexic can end your life. You may think that cutting yourself is making you feel better and its not hurting anyone, but its hurting your love ones. I know that losing your friends is very hard, but you can't hurt yourself to make you feel better. They can't come back, but remember that they are looking down on you. Your parents can help you by talking to you or having you see someone professional. Talk to someone and write it out..dont keep things inside. Suicide dont help solve any problems. Dont hurt your parents by leaving this world because they will feel the same as you did when your friends left. Hope this helps!! Sorry its so long..Even though I dont know you I dont want you to make a mistake and take your own life away.
-Manda
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