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From long time friends to lovers??
I know this sounds like a wussy story, but for the life of me I do not know why I feel this way....
I have this female friend whom I have been good friends with for many many years, We almost went further than friendship, but I declined cause I felt I would lose such a good friend.
Over the years we have always been friends, and I know now that she is the one for me, but how do I tell her?
she has been married and divorced, moved to another country with her boyfriend where he dumped her.
I moved to another country for career reasons, she has asked if she can come and stay with me for a few months, I am really exicted about her coming, but deep down I am full of fear because of the way I feel!
If I tell her, I may lose her or it could be I am gutless in the face of the one I truely love!
Any ideas people?
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lol well it sounds like your both in love and afraid to tell the each other. talk to her and tell her how you feel and im sure she will say the asme exact thing.but if she dosent that doesnt mean you have to end the friendship over it.with her coming to stay with you i think you guys will get closer and it probably wont be as hard to tell her how you feel.
hope i helped XoXo
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hello. this seems like another opportunity for you and her to have a relationship. so take it! tell her just to her face that you made a mistake before and that you really love her very much. she might even feel the same way about you. i can see how you dont want to lose her as a bestfriend but having a relationship with her could make something even more beautiful. hope i have helped. please rate
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explain to her exactly how you feel like you juss typed, before she moves in with you. then she'll know and decide what you guys can do about it.
good luck!
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Don't let your fear overule you and do what you need to do since she is a need/ neccessity for you. It's alright to have fear because fear is understandable. You also need to learn how to control your fear. As long as you are understanding and communicating and give / and or be willing to give time, then somethings(the basic issues) might as well be covered. Just give her time and don't force it but be gentle enough that she knows that you are always there for her when you need her. So i hope I was some help and have a nice day. You really do need to tell her and let her know that you're not rushing her into anything that she may not want to do,
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I don't see how you would lose her if you told her that she was the one for you. As a friend, be there anyways for her - try to comfort her about the break up and let her know that she still has you as a friend. If she's upset about the breakup, you might be able to help by reminding her what a great person she is.
Now for the hard part...how do you tell her? Right to her face. Are you good with poetry? You could try that, but don't make it too mushy or too boring either. If you aren't good thats fine. Definatley tell her in person, not over the phone, e-mail, etc. I think you should sit her down and tell her about you friendship with her and how much you value that - ya know, explain to her why she is the one for you. Tell her exactly how you feel about everything. She's your friend, she knows you. And as her friend, you know how to talk to her and what to expect. Hope that helped and good luck.
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I think if you care for the girl you need to talk about it when she visits. She may very well feel the same. Why would you not date your best friend. Your girlfriend should be your best friend. Sounds like you're getting another chance, could be fate...Go for it. :)
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