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my best friend kept something from me..
Okay, so my best friend "Christina" and I both have pasts that deal with suicidal type things. She was in a mental hospital earlier in the year, and when she came out she promised to stop cutting or try to call me whenever she felt like that, and I promised the same to her. About a week ago, my grandmother died, and the other day I got a call from her, saying she was going back into the hospital. I asked her why she didn't tell me and she said she wanted to give me time to "mourn." I feel like she doesn't trust me as much as she says she does, and I don't know what to say to her, because I'm hurt that she wouldn't talk to me and I'm scared that she's gonna hurt herself too badly someday, and I don't know what to do to help her anymore. Any advice on what I should say when I talk to her next? (Sorry this is so long)
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sorry to hear but try your best and tell her that you can tell me anything you should know that
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First this is fine its long lol but next i am so sorry about you grandmother but back to ur story... hehe.... maybe she wants to be secretive and is embaraased i know you had a promisse but maybe she feels uncomfterable to talk about it. let her tell you when she is ready... best of luck! i hope i helped tell me what happens!
-haley-
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She realizes that you can't help her and that is probably why she is checking back into the hospital. Some things we just can't help with as bad as we may want to. She is getting help. You can help her by supporting her decision and being there to talk if she needs it. I'm sure she was just being respectful during the time following your grandmas death ( sorry to hear about that). I'm sure she still trusts you. If she didn't she wouldn't have called before going back to hospital. Your friendship is just a little more mature than the typical friendship. When you see her next just ask how shes doing and reassure her that your there for her when needed. :)
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Just to start off I'm so sorry about your grandmother. But about your friend, I know how you feel. It's scary when someone your so close with has all these problems. My cousin has been in a mental hospital lately, he's totally different know from what he was last year. You need to tell your friend that she doesn't need to go back to the hospital so you can mourn. I think you would need your friend in a time like this. Tell her how you feel, and how you need her. She's your best friend right? So I think she would want to know how you feel. Tell her these are the times in your life that you guys need eachother the most through the rough times and the sads.
I hope I helped, and don't be sorry it's so long. Everybody should have time to write out their feelings.
If you need anything again, just ask me.
Simply_Jess
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ok.. i have had a sitiation like this before with one of my very best friends... what i did had her come over to my house an talked to her about it .. i sayed look if your afraid that im going to get mad ..an stuff that you cut .i told her she was wrong because she was my best friend ... i was there to make her feel better not worse an not to trust me .. i told her im her to help you with every problem .. tell her what you feel you should tel her ...
i hope i helped =]...xO ashley
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Since she's voluntarily going into the hospital, she is getting help. Perhaps she was worried that her problems on top of your grandmother's death would be too much for you. Be supportive of your friend. When she gets out of the hospital, remind her of your promise to be there for her if she gets to the point of needing help again and tell her it applies no matter what else is going on in your life.
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Eh, don't worry about the length, it's nothing. You need to talk to her and just let her know you are there and don't want anything bad to happen to her because she is your friend. Just be a friend and listen to her on whatever she has to say and say what you feel you need to say. Be here friend no matter what, that would be my best advice. Hope it gets better (and sorry for your grandmother's death) and this advice helps.
-Ryan
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Ok, I'm here to help so this is what you gotta do..next time you talk to her say...you're my best friend and we both have been through similar things...now i appreciate you giving me time to mourn but I couldnt bring my grama back but I could've stopped you from hurting yourself...please you have to talk to me when you have the urge to cut because I can't lose you..you're about the only person that understands me...I need you for support and you need me so promise me you'll call next time NO MATTER WHAT!!!...good luck with that h0pe i helped x0x *caitie*
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