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guy help
13/f
hey i just really want a guy. im attractive and pretty popular but i cant get a guy! im in 7th grade.. ive asked out a couple of guys in 8th and they automatically say no because i think they think its a joke. one time i gave a guy a note saying it wasnt a joke and he never wrote back.. i guess he wasnt interested but idk what to do! idk how to apporach a guy that i dont know, and want to go out. i've had boyfriends before and all but its been real hard lately. could you help me please? i rate 5 on anything that answers. ~thanks~
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well to start with dont jsut go right up to them and ask, always get to know the person first. So one day just randomly go up to a guy and start up a conversation but make a flirty talk you know like play with your hair and smile a lot then when you think you know them enough then see if they ask you first or you could go and ask them yourself. good luck
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You're trying too hard... it's a mistake i made when i was in seventh-8th grade and i'm still single. Just be yourself and the right guy will come along. If you go around screaming "PICK ME!" and annoy them, they will think you're a joke. Guys are like that.
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why dont you try gettin guys from your grade...then the guys that know you would feel better...becuase guys that are older than you might not no you and might not feel secure around you...its an agethingy
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You know I don't mean to be hurtful, but it's better to hear the truth and get hurt than to lie and feel the pain later. Your in the seventh grade, concentrate on school! You don't just go up to a guy who you dont know and ask for a relationship, you don't just want any guy, you should want a special guy. TO let you know i'm a male 16 years old, but i know how things go both ways. You want someone who will treat you right, and give you things you want, maybe not physically give you everything but the things that should exist in a relationship. Find the right one, not the cute one,
16/m
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you shouldn't try so hard. 8th graders probably thought you were too young. try going for someone you are really interested in. you seem to be wanting it so bad just to prove to yourself you can get guys. and they probably thought it was a joke because your a 7th grader. At this point in time age kind of does matter. And the truth is, you dont really NEED a guy. Wait for the one you really like. And to get a guy, maybe you could be friends first. Then get to know them. And THEN ask them out. Well hope i helped! And dont worry, there will be many more guys!
♥ nicole
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you should really go after a guy you already know but if you want to go after a random guy just start hanging around other guys see what there into and go from there. heres a quote i have found usefull (you dont find love, love finds you)
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Now, guys like girls that are interested in what they are. so when you see a guy that is reasonable, walk up to him when he is alone, and say something like " Hay, my name is (so and so), what is your's." then you just have a conversation, about things that he likes. (make sure you ask him what he likes, don't just guess!) If he doesn't really get that you are trying to make small-talk. I hope that I helped, and remember, my inbox is always open. Only rate if you want to. Don't be afraid to ask anything that you want to know. If I didn't quite make it clear, E-mail me and I will talk to you about it. (You can go to my column to see my E-mail adress.) I will always answer! You can be sure of it.
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Alright, first thing is, don't just get a bf to get a bf. You're in seventh grade, so you've got plenty of time to figure out what you want in a guy. Don't just approach a guy you don't know and ask to date him...you want to get to know him as friends, first. Trust me, realtionships built on friendship and trust will last, and be truly beautiful. If you see someone that you're interested in, don't use notes or emails. Just try to get to know something about them, and then go up to them and say "Hi. I hear you're interested in (fill in the blank), I am too." Or something to that effect, and see if it doesn't spawn some good conversation. Once you get to know a guy, it will be really easy to casually ask him to a dance or another date-worthy event. Hope this helps.
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First off, figure out exactly why you want a guy so bad. Is it to be like your friends? Or because you're lonely? Or are you truly interested in the guy and want to spend time with him?
Guys, just like girls, want someone who wants to be with them because they like them, not because they want to be like everyone else or think they're hot. With that said, find a guy you share a common interest with. Sports, books, even an obsession with the same tv show are all good places to start. This also helps avoid those little moments where you stare at each other waiting for the other to say something.
When you find the right guy, take things slow and really get to know him.
Hope this helps. Good luck in your guy search.
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Don't bother. You are 13, you don't want one for the right reasons. Try later.
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