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Okay,so me and this guy have been together for about 10 months, and he is completely faithful to me, like he doesn't even talk to other girls hardly ever, and he never hangs out with any other girls but me. But the other night he went to a party last minute and was completely wasted, and girls showed up and one locked him into a bedroom with her and started coming onto him, they ended up having sex. I found out about this a few days later, and he completely regrets it and he siad he had really no clue what was really going on that it went fast. we broke up, but we sitll talks and he says he wants nothing more than to be with me.. and like hes not even that kind of guy.he's not forceful, aggressive, or anything in that naturee if u know what i mean? and i mean we really had something speciall and i dont know what to do.. just let him go or try and makes thigns work? what do u think
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hmm... he said he didn't know what was going on when he was "forced" to have sex with this girl.
well let me ask you something. at the party...was there drugs or anything that people can get high with? because if your guy accidently got the drug in his body system he won't know what he did and what happened...
i am not saying that your guy is taking drug on purpose but some drug user, since they think they life sucks and wants to make other people's life miserable, they actually put drugs in the drink such as fruit punch so the people who drinks will get high and they wont even know about it.
its either that or since he liked you so much and he wanted to protect you (with sex and all that stuff going around) he didnt want to have sex with you but come on ...every guy thinks about sex at least once in a while ...but your guy liked you so much and since he didnt want to force you to do anything ...but he wanted to do IT so bad or wants to get some experience before he get to do IT with you ...
not that its any good i mean if he had those problems he should've talk to you first...
but if you really like him (i mean really really really like him) and he was so faithful to you before...than you should ask him to meet you at some kinda coffee shop or some place where you guys can talk and ask him if you really loved me as you say , why did you do it? and he would say ... i dont know i had no idea what was going on. then you should ask "well if i trust you and give you second chance, will you do it again?"
and your guy will definetly say "i will never do it again i promise"
and look him in the eyes...and see if they are sincere ones...and think about this...has he ever lied to you???
if so and if his not looking directly at you then his no good...
you know those really sincere looks that guys get when they want you to trust them and if they are telling truth...
so look for that...
i hope this helped and let me know how it went
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awwww!! i think you should take him back...i mean yeah it was his fault in a way that he did have sex with the other chick but if you'd been together for 10 months and that it only happend once...then i think he's a keeper...people deserve second chances in their lives because sometimes they arent ready for their first. and in a way it wasnt his fault about what happend...i mean a girl locked him in a bedroom and came onto him so strong?? wow...i mean if u were a guy and u were very wasted and a girl stuck their vagina in your face you'd probly do them too...so keep all that in mine and i hope things work out for you!!
hope i helped!
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I completly understand what you are going through! And it is partly this guys fault for getting wasted in the first place!But the girl also caused most of the damage by knowing the he didn't know what was going on! So I would talk to this boy and tell him that it really hurt you and you don't apricate what happened and that you still love him too but you don't know what to do. If you won't to be back with him and still have feelings for him then say it and tell him that you do. Maybe you should say yes if you think that he was that devoted to the relationship. Maybe he really didn't know what was going on and needed help in making disions! I really hope that this relationship works out and that you all get back together becasue it sounds like you had someonething really wounderful! Give feedback and let me know if I helped I hope that i did!
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Like Michele said make him stop drinking
its important that you are not in that situation
cause if yall were to have a serius problem
you would be stuck in the middle of it all!
i know sometimes u wanna be a BAD GURL i went through that fase but went through even longer punishment ... stay away from that guy
take it from somebody WHO DOESNT KNOW !!
sometimes its better to have a prespective from sombody who can hear it like it is.
he sounds like there is a bad side to him
especially! if ! he! drinks !
im scared hes gonna make u drink and get drunk with him and then yall could have a wreck and YAYAYAYA BIG TIME TROUBLE AND SAFTY ISSUES
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That same EXACT thing happened to me. You're hurt, but theres nothing you can really do about the pain. I would try to fix things with him. He didnt mean to do it.
I forgave my boyfriend and we are even better than before.
If you and your boyfriend can get through something like that, then you two are very strong people and deserve to be together.
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i would try and make things work. it was not delibrate, and u gotta have some simpithy 4 the guy... you r probbly hurt preddy bad too... i would try and make it work but if annything like that happens again i would b/u with him. hope i helped
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Well the it sounds like he drinks too much, and he cannot control his impulses when he drinks. So if you forgive him it's like saying, yes I believe that you are not like that, and did not consciously cheat on me, but it also says that you don't expect him to be responsible for his actions when he drinks.
See if he will stop drinking, then maybe consider going back with him. But if he won't stop drinking and going to parties where anything goes, then I would not trust him.
MIchele
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personally i think that you shouldnt go out with him again, i was in the same situation as you back in feburary, i was totally in love with this guy who i was with for almost 11 months, he was a sweet, cute, and romatic guy. and then he went to a party, got drunk, and had sex with this girl, he had a choice not to but he did, unfortunatly i still trusted him and he once again cheated on me, but this time he was completly sober, so my honest opionion is once a cheater, always a cheater, i dont think you should take that risk, its just going to hurt you
i hope i helped u...
if you need anymore help with this or want to talk more then IM me, xcx cort xcx
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