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ok i am 16 and all my friends say they have had sex i feel i am the only one that has not.what shall i do?they keep asking me if i have had sex?
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Listen, sex is really not that important. Your friends may feel that it is, but it's really not.
You want it to be with someone you care about, especially the first time. Your first time is never what you expect it to be, and is often rather painful, so you want it to be someone who cares about you and will try to cause you as little pain as possible.
You're sixteen. You JUST got legal (in some states). Don't be in a rush to find someone just because your friends say they have. Just so you know, I'm not saying your friends are sluts for having sex at 16, since I was that age when I lost my virginity.
I'm just suggesting that for your own emotional well-being, wait until you find a guy you love, who loves you. Girls also tend to get emotionally attached to the first guy they have sex with, which is why a lot of people wait until marriage, to make sure there's no risk of awful heartbreak or breakup.
As far as what to tell your friends, I would just tell them "No, I have not had sex yet, and I'd appreciate it if you'd stop asking." If you want, you can even tell them "I'll tell you when I do" to get them to shut up.
Just don't rush it, and don't let them rush you.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)
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Ok, so they had sex? Big deal. They must be the kinds who don't consider love making a thing of, well - love! If you're goign to have sex, make sure you do it with the right man who'll be there forever. Which means no in highschool since all guys, yes I am ratting my own gender out, are complete assholes and will do anything. /Anything./
So don't give in to peer pressure. It's hard, but you at least know you're doing the right thing.
♥EJ(ST)
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Everyone your age probably does drugs too, does that mean you should do them also?
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dont give into peer pessure!!!!! do it when it feels right and when you trust the guy ur gonna do it with. dont have sex just b/c everyone else is, and when you do use a condom so if it doesnt work out between you two you arent stuck w/ a kid or with a std like aids
hope i helped!
-kcbswm599
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Tell them than no one is going to force you into doing anything that you don't want to do. After all, could any one make you wear last year's clothes! DOn't do it until your ready. And gee, don't you need a guy, and don't you need to be in love to have sex.
Besides, you are saving yourself a lot of heartache. Haven't any of your girlfriends, who have had sex, been dumped by the guys they had sex with? Why go down that road. It is better to have the boys "wonder" about you, than to know you intimately, and then make fun of you or just dump you like an old shoe.
The longer you wait, the happier you will be later on. THey just want you to be as miserable as they are.
Michele
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just tell them the truth that you havent. if they make fun of you or try to make you have sex their not good friends. im 15 and i still havent had it and i dont plan on it soon eithr.. so just do what makes you feel comfterble.
h.i.h.
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Don't worry about it. The last thing you want to do is have sex just to get it over with. It won't be half as much fun as it should be if you do it like that.
When you are asked if you have had sex it is totally up to you what you say. You could say you haven't met anyone lucky enough yet, you're allergic, you'd rather go bowling, anything! Just don't do it til you are really happy about doing it, the timing, the person, everything. You never get to lose your virginity again so make the most of it.
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well dont do it just because everyone else has. maybe you are waiting for the right time. and if they keep asking you tell them to FUCK OFF .. ;)
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You shouldn't do ne thing... just because something is right for them doesn't mean it's right for you... tell them that no you haven't had sex but when u do... you will be sure to let them kno... don't just have sex because u feel like everyone else is doing it... chances are half of them are lyin to begin with
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Jus tell them no; big deal, who caRes. People have sex at ALLLL diffeRent ages. Just because you've neveR done it, does *NOT* mean you'Re "behind" oR "pathetic" WHATSOEVER!!!!! You have PLENTY of time!!! Til then.. don't Rush it... and be pRoud of what you aRe!! If they aRe ANY kind of human being at all, they won't think ANY less of you simply because you HAVE NOT HAD SEX. Then *THEY* would be pathetic...
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Hey. Tell them the truth if your not ready your not ready, just because all your friends have had sex doesn't mean you should be pressured into doing it. They should understand if not there not good friends.
luv roxie
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hey tell them the truth.just cause you dont rush into it doesnt mean you should be ashamed.so just say no i havent had sex cause im waiting for the right guy.
Love Kim
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