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i have a freind(i dont know what to do)
I have a friend and she is one of my best freinds and she is really nice when hanging around me but when she starts hanging out with one of these popular girls at school she starts calling people retards and idiots and gay. we hate this one girl at school and we talk about her because she gets on our nerves. after that, the next day right after she has talked about her she goes behind my back and hangs out with her how do i get to know if she goes behind my back and talks about me and just hangs around me because she wants to tell people what i say and stuff that i do????
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Hello there,
Some people are just like that. It is what they do to make themselves feel important, and they do it to everybody.
Don't think for one second that she isn't doing it to you behind your back.
Boys go through this also... My favorite example from my youth:
I went to school with a guy who I thought was my friend. He lived next door to this girl that I really liked, so I asked him about her. He called her all kinds of names! Really bad things he said about her you just wouldn't believe it.
A couple weeks later this girl walks up to me in the lunchroom and tells me that she doesn't appreciate the things I have been saying about her behind her back. I just stood there like immediate because, number one I liked her, and I also had no idea what she was talking about.
Turns out that my "friend" liked her, and to avoid me asking her to a dance he said all these vile evil things about her to me, and then went behind my back and told her that I said all those very same evil vile things about her... They went to the dance together. :-(
Get rid of this person before they cause you any harm, that's my advice.
DangerNerd
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I think you fix this problem by just not hanging out with her anymore. When she asks why...tell her. She's not a real friend she jumps form group to group causing trouble. :)
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Dont be her friend if she is going to turn around and backstab you like that she doesnt deserve your friendship
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Sounds to me she is using you why are you still her friend if she does that i have the same problem what i did was i started hanging out with new friends and i would say try to avoid her as much as you posibly can then you'll soon forget you were even friends now mostly all my best friends are guys im having the time of my life and i forgot about my old friend so try that and see how it goes try to hang out with a new crowd if she comes running back to you tell her how you feel a request you stop being friends but try not to be rude about the situation. -Kate05-
P.S Good Luck
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Most of the time if a friend says things about someone and hangs out with the person they ran there mouth about then , they probley do it to all there friends. She probley is that type of person , a person who talks about other people and her friends to make her self feel better.
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To me, this girl seems insecure. She wants to become popular and put other people down to make herself feel better, even if she hurts her friends in the process.
Talk to her when you two are alone. Ask her why she's doing those things to you. Also, let her know that you're worried about your friendship. Ask her if she cares about your friendship anymore.
DO NOT try talking to her when she's with the "Popular" people. Also, be calm. Don't yell at her or anything. And don't be too harsh.
If she's not willing to change, then she isn't a true friend. You deserve a friend who is good to you, not a backstabber.
I hope I helped and if you have any more questions, feel free to leave one in my inbox!
♥ Manders
EDIT: Thanks so much for the feedback! I'm flattered!
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Ok I say try to ask some of the popular girl's friends have heard anythin from her. If your friend doesn't hang out with you as much, I think you should find new friends.
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