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afraid to talk
My boyfriend is shy and he is afraid to talk to me. When he comes over and he'll say hey and thats about it. He is like afraid to talk to me. He always says online hey i'm really shy and i can't ever think of anything to say. And I say something like omg its just me. and he'll say just you?!? He's like afraid to talk to me in person but will on the phone and online. any advice
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I think he really likes you and is just nervous so maybe if you starteda topic like you would on the phone he might start talking to you like normal on the phone.
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try to start the conversations yourself. try to find what he loves to do, and talk about it. it might get him interested so he talks a lot. try to stay away from topics that make him uneasy such as your relationship. if he is still freaked out say "hey i know you aare shy around me but i really like you, and i want you to know there is no reason to be shy i wont make fun of you or anything!"
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Same as this boy in my class with my mate who he is dating.. in school he is all like shy and then on msn he is like "hey sexy you look so hot in that skirt today babe" n flirts and stuff then i ask him what is his problem and he is just like .. im too shy to say it to her face so he says it to her over the pc.. really you need to let him know your YOU and he can flirt with you and talk to you and doesnt need to be shy.. i mean its you! like you said
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i know guys like that...try bringing something up to talk about..that way he doesn't have to think of something to say
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When you're talking to someone in person, the person you're conversing with can see your emotions. I am the same way as your boyfriend. I'm cool with talking online and on the phone, letters, E-mails... but I have a harder time in person. Even sometimes with my best friends I get really shy and don't talk. When I do talk in person, I have an extremely hard time looking people in the eye. I can hide emotions well at times, so sometimes the only way you can tell how I'm feeling is by looking into my eyes. If I look someone in the eye, they might know my emotions at that time. Maybe this is what your boyfriend is dealing with?
I'm not sure really what to say, considering I have the same probelm as your boyfriend. I'm really not a "people" person.. and I prefer farm animals. (ha ha)
It's not just you, I promise. He's just shy, accept that.
To help him, you start the conversations. When he says "hey" ask him how his day was, what he did, if he had a good day etc. He'll loosen up around you pretty soon.
-FunnyCide
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Okay, I am a guy. I know right now I become uncomfortable around a girl because she is amazingly good looking. In my opinion your boyfriend just hasn't figured out exactly what he should be doing. Some guys aren't great with relationships and can be uncomfortable some girls, even if the girl is his girlfriend. Hope that helps, and good luck with the rest...
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Are you his first girlfriend? If so, then the only reason that I can think of that explains why he is shy and afraid to talk to you is that he doesn't want to say something that will make you think of him differently. He will change, you just need to wait. You could always ask him why it seems that he is afraid to talk to you in person, rather than online and on the phone, and he should tell you. Do you spend a lot of time with him? If you don't, then start hanging out with him more so he can get used to having a relationship with you and that should help.
-Karen
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you just have to break him in..boys get shy around girls sometimes because they are afraid of saying the wrong thing and changing your outlook on them..just give him time..he`ll come around.
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