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okay so i am and only child and im am the total opposite of spoiled! if ne thing im way over protected! my parents are really tight! and they wont let me do n e thing! im 14 and im goin out with this boy but i dont kno how to tell my parents.. i mean they kno that i like this boy and he likes me but how can i get them to let me go out with him? or like just atleast hang out with himout of school? i get good grades and im honest with them and they trust me and i deserve to b able to have more privalages! how can i just explain to them that everyone has a boyfriends when your my age and that most of them are allowed to go out on a date with them?
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This is going to be hard to hear because you are in a tight rope, but I consider you luckier than parents that are way loose with their kids. Why? Because my parents are really loose with us, I was smart enough not to do what 14 year old girls should do with boys, but my little sister isn't making it. My older sister is pregnant, and my younger 13 year old sister is headed for sex probably, because she wasn't taught that its wrong to make out so young, I'm not saying you've made out with guys, but I'm telling you that you could of been one of those girls who get called a slut because you are being taught right now that doing these things aren't acceptable. But, a good way to have your parents trust you, is to ask if they could meet him sometime, have him come over for dinner at least and let your parents get to know him, and they will at least think it over. They could be afraid of you shutting them out of your life once you jump in the dating world, but if you have him meet the parents and update with whats going on, I'm sure they will feel better about you dating. They are also probably afraid of your really good grades slipping. You have to prove to them that you will be honest like you are now and still have education at the top of your to do list. Ask them for a chance to pove that you can date and still be yourself.
-TheTeenGirl
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Say to them: Do you remember ____? (theyll say yes) then say Well im his girlfriend now or Im going out with him now and I was wondering if I could go to the movies with him Friday. Something like that. If they say you shouldnt have a boyfriend at that age say everyone does and we really like eachother.
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I am not sure what to tell you, but all I can say is that your not the only one. I am the youngest of 3 girls and I am not allowed to date till I am 16, which is a year away for me. I know its hard for parents to let there kids to grow up specially if your the only child (such like you) or your the youngest (such like me). Maybe you can try acting as if your really close friends or whatever, for me I have been to the movies before with guys like 3 times. Once it was 2 of my closest friends and me..and then once it was one of best friends (who was a girl) n then one of the guys I went with the 1st time. My parents allowed it since there was 3 of us and they didnt aspect anything...(yet we only went as friends) so try maybe a movie thing? like 3, 4 or 5 ppl?
Sorry it wasn't much help but its the best I could give. <3
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Sounds like you have a good relationship with your parents. Don't mess it up. Just talk to them about it. Maybe invite him over for dinner first and let them meet him and get to know him a little. THEN, after they have met him they will be more approachable about going on a real date. Good luck :)
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just dont tell them, and tell the mmyour going to a friends house and go hang with this guy.
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You need to explain to them that you have to have some priorities of your own let them see it from your point of view
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just ask like how old you have to be to date, or have the guy ask your parents if he can take you on a date not only do your parents think that he truely cares but it is a nice jesture.
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I know exactly how you feel i'm an only child and not allowed to date until i'm 18 but as long as my mom dosent find out its fine with me. If it was me i would go behind my mom back like i do but thats me. Maybe you should prove that you are responsable and tell them how you feel maybe that will work.
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Just talk to your parents and tell them the truth. They might feel better about you going out on dates if you try to involve them a little. For example: if you are going to the movies, have your parents drop you off. Let them know which movie you are seeing, and when it will be over. Designate a time a place to meet, so that they can pick you up. And then make sure that the two of you are there when you said that you were going to be. This will show your parents that you can be trusted, and keep them from worrying about where you are who you are with.
Also, let your parents meet your boyfriend. Don't be afraid to ask your parents if you can invite him over for dinner and to watch a movie one night. This will give your parents the opportunity to get to know this guy, and the more they know, the less they will worry. While he's over, make sure to respect their rules. For example: if your parents don't like the idea of you having a boy in your bedroom, don't take him in there, not even to watch tv. Watch tv in the living room instead. They will see that you respect their rules, and will return your respect.
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