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lost my dad
me and my da havent spoke for about a yr since i got caught smokin weed... my dad completely turned his back on me while my mom was there with me the whole time and i love her i miss the relationship witt my dad but at the same time im so mad at him (even though i was the one that screwed up) for turnin his bak on me i have two sides about this and its gettin mixed and i dunno wut i shud do... hes not the type of dad u cud sit down and have a conversation about this with... plz help
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If you can't talk to him I don't know what to tell you.Has your mom tried? You really don't need to hang around for a conversation. I would just tell him that you know you did wrong and you just hope one day things can be good between the two of you again.Maybe give him something to mull over.Hopefully in time he will realize what he is missing.I hope so.:}
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My dad isn't the type to sit down and talk either. What you should do is write him a little note or letter and say how much your sorry and how much you regret it and what you did was stupid and you'll never do it again. And tell him how much you love/miss him. Maybe buy him a little gift. And put the note or whatever somewhere where he will notice. Good luck.
<3 brit
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You shouldnt of smoked weed, but you cant change the past so you need to let him no that you love and you really screwed up . And you have to mean it. Drop him a little note or something while you are over at someones house so he has time to think about it . When you come home be like did you get my note and he will say yes and give him a big meaningfull hug.
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i think that you should try and talk to him....if he doesnt listen..try again..and again! soon you will get through. a father/daughter relationship is really important...dont forget hes the one thatll be walkin u down the aisle when u get married!
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Even though you were in the wrong in the first place your dad is also in the wrong. As a father he can't have expected for your whole life to be smooth sailing all parents have to go through some rough times with their kids. I bet he wasn't perfect. If you feel you can't talk to him write a letter explaining everything, why you decided to smoke weed in the first place and that you want a relationship with him. Your dad may feel very let down so maybe you could apologise to him. I commend your mum for supporting you and hope that you and your dad can make up.
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Dear lostmydad,
You don't say in your question whether or not you are still smoking. If you aren't, you should definitely try to make amends to your dad before another year goes by. He was probably more hurt and disappointed than angry, but many people behave as if they are angry even though they are experiencing an entirely different emotion. It's wonderful that you have a good relationship with your mom. But back to dad. Would it be convenient for you to see him in person? Does he live nearby? If so, I would try to see him in person. Apologize. Be sincere about it. Don't offer up any excuses. If he accepts your apology, I would then make a little small talk. Steer him away from the weed conversation and tell him that you, also, was hurt by him. After all, he is your father and always will be. He does have a responsibility to support you even though you may occasionally make a bad judgment call. (this is assuming that this whole thing is not a habit with you getting into trouble...) Judging from the fact that you said he's not the type of dad you can just sit down and have a conversation with, you need to be brief and to the point. Do not be judgmental or accusatory with him. The fact that he turned his back on you for an entire year was very hurtful to you and unnecessary. He was punishing you when he should have been guiding you. But please don't be too hard on him. Forgive him. Because we all make those bad judgment calls from time to time.
Good luck!
Linda
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There is not much you can do try and apologize be sincere. Hopefully things will work out for the best. Oh and if you only got caught once then be all like it was a one time mistake i wont do it again and you could probably sell a sob story like that. Other than that i dont think there is much you can do. srry i couldnt help more
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yeah I have the same relationship with my dad..just let things go the way they are and hopefully things will work out..sry its not really good advice :-
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