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Sick of this feeling
Ok so there's this guys Shawn, and he doesn't live here. We have been off and on since the summer, and i'm so insecure about the relationship because all the other guys i've been with have been pricks. I never see him so i dont consider it a relationship..and i can't just be friends with him because i have stronge feelings for him, and it's not going to work ever again. But it hurt's so much when i see him sign on or talk or think about him. He was the first real guy that accepted my eating disorder and my cutting habbits. I need to get over him because i don't wanna feel this weay anymore. But everytime i try it feel's as if i can't feel the same way with another guy. I'm thinking of deleting his s.n and getting ride of anything that has to do with him..taking him out of the picture completley. (Because if he really loves me then he'll be there later in life, right?) What do you think?
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Your problems must be hard for you and you need somebody there. Just try to be friends with him, you need him !
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You love him, he loves you - get over it theres plenty more where that came from. Simple as that. In my opinion you should never go back for seconds, if your relationship doesn't work the first time and you cant work through your problems its a waste of time for both of you. Don't cut your friends out of your life, unless they are a danger to you or themselves; thats mean and childish, and will be the cause of you ending up as an old woman with way too many cats, and no friend a'tall. Selfish selfish selfish.
Hey babe, you asked for advice, I gave it. You don't like it you don't have to follow it. It's not a command its ADVICE. And "I'm thinking of deleting his s.n and getting ride of anything that has to do with him..taking him out of the picture completley." That means you want to cut him out of your life entirely. Duh. Think about what you say before you say it. Oh wait I'm sorry, you are typing so read what you are typing because it only makes you three times as stupid to type something entirely different from what you mean.
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I think you would be making a really big mistake if you shut him out. Your eating disorder must be really hard for you, and I can't say that I know how you feel like other people because I don't. This guy, as you said, is the only guy who has acceoted your eating disorder and still likes you. You don't find many guys like that who are caring and are there for you every step of the way. Also, you can't count on the future or if he'll be there later in life because what if you won't. Even if you try to avoid the negative perspectives, they might be true. If you think that your relashionship is meant to be, then go for it even if you guys barely see eachother because the love will still be there. Many couples take on tough relashionships like this, and you guys have got to be one of those couples. I wish you the best of luck, and hope that you make the right decision. If you have any questions or concerns, send me a message in my inbox, and I will answer them ASAP!
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I think you should consider being friends even if it doesn't feel right because then you will be even closer and better off than you ever felt with someone.
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Excellent i'm glad you've been treated and I'm glad shawn was supportive in your treatment.
If he doesn't live near you then you really are unable to have a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship anyway.So right now just be friends.
Why do you think you're unable to just be friends anyway? He obviously likes you and cares about you to have supported you in your time of need.Not all guys would do that ya know.
You can go out with other guys if you want to and he can date others as well.It will hurt I know to think about it.But, you may find someone new and still have a great friend.Or, if not one day you will be together.I would try to move on but I would not take him out of the picture all together. He's been a good friend.
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Yeah, hell be there later in life if he really cares. But even though he accepted your eating disorder and cutting problems, maybe in a way, it still scared him off. I personally dont know why people have those kind of things even though I have a friend who has an eating disorder, I think that you go and try and get some help for that. Then about the guy problem, if it is meant to be, then dont feel insecure about it, hell be there. Plus, if you get rid of the stuff and he comes back later in life, youll regret throwing that stuff away. Trust me, I have done it before. But again, if it is meant to be and you all arent together right now, dont feel bad for goiong with someone else because that relationship is probably going to happen later in life. Plus, you shouldnt commit yourself to one person at a young age. But if he really cares about you, then hell treat you with respect, so dont feel insecure about the relationship. But him not caring is what you have to worry about. Get back to me and tell me how everything goes if you can.
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Well don't give up all hope with this guy. He obviously means so much to you and was such a big part of your life. You shouldn't just try to forget about someone who totally understood you. You don't find a person like that very often. And if it's meant to be, then you two will find a way to get back together eventually. Until then, try to find somebody else that you get along with. But I don't think you should get rid of everything that reminds you of him or has to do with him. Maybe hide everything that reminds you of him in a place that you'll never really see it. But in time, you'll get better. Trust me. I've had the same experience.
♥ Always,
Maria
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