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Looking for some friends
I have a serious problem. I am a twenty one year old grown woman who can't make friends. I am happy with my husband to be and I love myself my dog and my family. I am a full time college student but I stay off campus. I just don't make friends easily. Never have. We just sort of fell into each other. I have no friends besides my fiancee. Can anyone suggest some hints or advice that can put in the direction of making some life long friends?
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i used to have that problem too.to me i dont like the slow aproach,i just start talkin.do like near some1 who has a problem,then give them some help and eventually they'll think ure nice and u guys will get along.so just dont be shy and go for the gold
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go to a bar everyday for the rest of your life your sure to become great friends with the barkeeper until he dies then start going to walmart...
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At college..maybe talk to a couple people in class. Gradual small talk can lead to a wonderful friendship if you ask "wanna catch a movie friday?" It all starts with that one question and before you know it...you'll have a group of girls and you can go out to the movies..partying..etc. Do you have any cousins your age on either side of the family? If so ask her to maybe invite some of her friends and maybe you and your husband can host a BBQ with beer and a campfire. Spark a convo there. Do you live in place where there is nightlife..clubs? If so go with your husband clubbing and maybe ypu'll find a couple there to make friedns with. Does your husband golf or bowl or anything? If he does ask him to have the guys bring their wives/gfs one time and you can get talking and hit it off there maybe. The biggest thing to remember is to be yourself.. and not to be timid or afraid when there are opportunities. All it takes is that one question "wana catch a movie" (for example) and soon you'll make it a routine to go out to the movies.
I hoep i helped..and i bet you'll do fine with making friends..just be yourself :)
-melissa-
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I had that problem, then I discovered I had the ability to make people to smile. Sometimes, that's all people want, but I have to tell you, some of the frinds I have now only like me for my spunky attitude. I only have a small hand full of true friends and all the rest are like, "Hey, she can take this weight off my chest." I enjoy helping people, but afterward, they treat me the same as they had before. I believe I am... basically a loner, outcast. I am complex and outgoing and don't enjoy taking orders. Those are the best traits to have, but it makes people frustrated with how happy you are with yourself, and they just stay away. It's like I have a magnet in me that rejects everyone, and I'm fine with that. If you really need a friend, why not give it a try. I may only be a 14 year old girl, but I have had more experience than most think. Just email me, if you think there is a chance of a friendship in me. liveanotherday1070@yahoo.com
Sorry I couldn't be of more help. Obviously didn't help that much, giving me a three and not saying anything. Truly sorry.
~Offered Hand
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go out and drink a lot..and smoke some weed.
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Well maybe staying on campus could help hun and you comunicating with people at your college.. um maybe try to find out where people chill and maybe try to chill there as well.. much luv dez
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First, go out. But don't just go anywhere.
You need to go to some place where your odds of meeting other people, with similiar personalities, is greater. For example, if you're quiet and shy, don't go to a bar or club. Join a book club instead. (Less people in a more comfortable atmosphere. Gives you the opportunity to melt the ice at your own pace.) If you are religious, don't just go to church. Join a Sunday school class. If your not religious, but very kindly, try volunteer work. (If you don't make friends easily, try to get involved in a small group. The smaller, the more intimate, and thus more likely to make new friends.)
I'm not sure what you mean by, "don't make friends easily." Are you shy? Or are you not shy, you just don't talk much? Whatever it is, I've noticed this...
A lot of times, we are aquainted with certain people, and it never goes very far. We can't even pass them on the street and acknowledge their presence. Why? I'm not really sure. But whatever it is, we all need to get over it. So, when a person that you recognize walks into a room, first acknowledge their presence. It doesn't have to be anything major.
If you a see person often, and maybe know there name, whether you think they know your's or not, introduce yourself. This opens the window for communication. If you don't like to talk to yourself, ask a lot of polite, safe questions. Try to find something about that person that you can relate too. Now you have established that you have something in common.
Once you find out what you have in common, invite them to lunch. Or to dinner at your house so they can meet your fiancee. And I'm sure your catching my drift now and know precisely where this is going.
I would also like to add that, if your self esteem is suffering from your lack of friends...Don't let it. This doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you. In fact, your normal. The older you get, the more difficult it is to make friends. It's not because other people dislike you, it's because we're all older and a lot busier and sometimes we get so wound up with work, relationships, etc. that we forget what a joy a friendship can be.
I wish you luck, and my hope for the best ;) Adieu...
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i meet my best freind at the begining of the school i complemented her on her nails now we are inseperable i know that sounds cheesey but it worked for my we were ment to be freinds i meet my sister in law the same way she married my brother. Now were related ant that funny
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Just walk by someone if you've seen then before and say hi. Then do it again, a little bit later, say hi how are you. After a while they'll say hi back and you will have an actual conversation after a while. From there you have a friend.
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