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Mom, dad?
My parents got divorced and i'v been living with my mom, brother, and step-dad for over a year. I feel really bad for my dad because he lives alone and seems lonley. I think he should get a pet too bt he works and say`s he wouldn`t be able to take care of it and stuff. I think i want to live with my dad, but if i do i know my mom will cry and get alll upset.. :/ what should i do or say?! Plez help
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I have had the same problem recently but my mom is the reason i want to move out...well, by law you are old enough to decide wether or not u want to live with mom or dad. (well, i was when i was 12) so, sit down and talk to your mom about it, tell her to please not get upset and that you think ur dad is lonely and you want to be with him for awhile. Then tell her that you will be able to visit her every other weekend. (well, that is how it was with me) Or if she is just going to let you go and live with him (without the courts getting involved) just make shure that you let her know that you love her (unless you dont) and it has nothing to do with her.(if it doesnt) But, sit down and talk with her. I think that would be the best thing to do! i hope i helped a little bit!
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i have the same problem. my parents got divorced at little over a year ago and i live with my mom. the best thing to do right now is to talk to your mom. she'll understand. and think about it....if your dad is too busy, he cant take care of you. so for right now, try and talk to both of your parent about it. maybe you can live with your dad for a month in the summer or something. i hope this helps!
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well your dad may be lonley, but if he works and can't even take care of an animal i don't think he can take care of you. so stick with your mom for right now. hope i helped
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Try talking to your mom. Im sure she'll understand. If your worried about your dad, then I dont think she'll be upset or anything. Hope my advice helps!
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maybe you can see him every other week or something like that
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well if he doesn't live too far away, then i think you should visit him every once in a while....i mean he is your dad. A visit would be sweet. Stay there for about 2 weeks and see if you'd like to live there or not. Just remember, you're leaving behind your really close friends and stuff like that. Just make your decision wisley!
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You should only live with your dad if YOU want to - not because you feel sorry for him. That would make you resent him and the whole relationship would be pretty false because it isn't built on an actual want for living with each other, but because you feel sorry for him. Your Mum would most likely be upset, and you're a lovely person for considering everyone's feelings here, but you really have to think about yourself and where you are going to be happy. You don't want to waste years of your life being miserable!!
Do you visit your father a lot? If not, could you? You could do for the holidays or at weekends. And even if that isn't possible, emailing him/writing to him/calling him up once a week or so will help to cheer him up a little :)
Good luck!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
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i sorta have the same situation. granted this was set up by the state, but what i did was i talked to my dad every weekend, adn i saw him during the summer (cuz we lived in different states) and then i alternated christmases and thanksgivings with him. but if he lives closer, then i think you should try to visit him at least every other week or something, maybe call him every night to say goodnight. and about the whole pet thing, if he works more than a nine to five job, then it wouldn't be a good thing, but if not, as long as he took him out before he left and as soon as he got home, it would be fine, and also leave food in the cage for it. yeah.....i'd love to help more if you need it, email me at metalkat86@hotmail.com. hope i helped,
Kat
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Why not one week stay with your dad and the week after stay with your mum so then there not both alone
and that they have you to care for them
roxie
xxx
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well that is something she will just ave to learn to deal with. she sohouuld understand. but if she doesnt seem to get why, just explainto her that he is your dad, you o have the option to choose who you would like to live with. tell her you find that he is lonely and would just like to try it out and see how things go. tell her its not permanent at frist, but it could very possibly becme a permanent issue. tell her that you will still see her and all but just choose to want to live with your dad.
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hey i know what are you feeling i went through the same thing! i don't exactly know what to do but i know what you can say to your dad if you like! this is my opionion i would say hey dad i know you must feel lonelyn and all and i sometimes think that i should live with you but i know the fact that if i move mom will be worried about me! but dad i just want to say that weather iam here or not i will always love you and i will always be there for you whenever you need me. i love you alot dad! hey its not what you do its what to say and feel about your dad if you really love your dad he will appeciate it and you alot! i know from experince hey well good luck bye! oh hope it works tell me later! oh and you don't have to try it.
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Hey hun..
I TOTALLY understand exactly waht you are going through...about 4 years ago my parents separated..and i had to choose who to live with..and at first i was going to live with my mom..but then i knew she wouldn't have a lot of money after the divorce so i figured it would be better for everyone if i lived with my dad..but after a summer of living with my dad..i got totally sick of it and i wanted to move back with my mom..so i did..and my dad was all like why dont u want to live with me whats wrong with me..and i didnt know what to say to that..so i just left..but then when i lived with my mom i never went to school or anything..so my mom made me move back with my dad..even though i knoe she didn't want me to..but she said it was for the best..and so now i live with my dad..but i know what your going through..it isn't fair for teens/children to have to go through something like that..but dont feel that you would be hurting one or the other with your desision..if they love you and know what is best for you..they should let you make your own desision..its totally up to you..its your choice not theres..i hope i helped..
mad love
lisa xoxoxox
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hmm...maybe you could split it. Like weekends or something!
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what you could do is right before you talk to her say, mom i dont want to hurt youre feeling and this has no affence to you and say what you wanna say about why you want to go over there and ask if you could try it for a while and you'll visit everyweekend or stay w/ your dad every other week. hope this helps :) good luck!-xox- *amanda*
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