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help please
well i have two best friends ((Rachel and Rissa)).. well heres some back ground.. rachel hates rissa but rissa doesnt hate rachel.. but rachel stayed over last night and i wrote a letter to my mom saying that riss was comming over soo she was like.. okay ill have rachel go home!! soo then rachel gave me the silent treatment cuz she new that something was up!!! soo i couldnt tell her cuz i didnt know if rissa was even comming over ((we had planned her coming over for a while)) so then we got back to my house and rachel says I WANT TO GO HOME. soo she goes home and then all of a sudden i get a text message saying WE CANT BE FRIENDS AND MORE and i was like why and she never responded.. well i no she will get over it and everything but when shes mad.. she tells everything i told her.. and she has alot on me like stuff im not going to get into.. but its really bad if she tells the people which i think she will and i dont know what to do about this because i think this could be a lonnnnnng fight and she will tell people everything and i have a few things on her but she will just deny it.. i need help!!!!! HELP ME PLEASEE
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I had two friends like that, and luckily, they are friends now.
But if you are not this lucky:
Do not ignore Rachel, but Rissa seems much cooler for not hating Rachel. Rachel needs to accept that you are friends with Rissa, and that it should not affect your friendship. Also, from what it sounds like (sorry but your letter is a bit confusing), you made Rachel go home after you invited her over. Think about what you have planned before making other plans to avoid even more difficult situations.
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who says you can't just deny right back? Laugh when people ask you, and explain what you just told us. They will probably end up laughing with you and just saying "o, so she's just pissed.." and then they will spread that.. If you don't take it too seriously I don't think many people will believe what she says.. especially if you two are in a fight, which is the time most people are more proned to tell lies about eachother (or at least immature ones)
~Sarah
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I think you should stop being her friend. Real friends don't tell the secrets of their friends, even if they're mad at each other. Talk to rachel and ask her why she's mad. and explain to her what happened and that you just didn't want her feel uncomfortable because you know that her and rissa don't get along. If she's mature she'll understand, if not then its her loss that she's losing a good friend.
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Let me tell you what I would do. I would give her the silent treatment until she tells you why or says sorry. If you don't want to do that call her when she's available or ask a friend to do a favor and ask why for you if she's that kind of person who won't talk to you. If she doesn't want to be friends in the mean while you can try to get over it and spend more time with other friends - maybe they can help cheer you up.
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Ask her why you dont want to be friends. I would do it on the phone or face to face. Be like "whats up with you not wanting to be friends with me anymore?..what did i do?.i dont know what i did and if i dont know what i did then i can fix it or say sorry, so please, whats going on?" or something like that.
good luck!!
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You should deny it too if it gets to that point. Does she have an sn on AIM? if so..talk to her on there telling her how you feel. Explain to her that you had her go home because she hates the other girl. Shes the one who made things complicated because if she would just chill out and not hate the other girl..none of it would have happened. I have a feeling once you guys talk..whether its on AIM,on the phone, or in person..and you get all your anger and feelings out..then reach a "truths" and forgive..you'll be ok. If she denies what you say about her..then you should deny what she says about you. Just tell everyone shes saying all that because shes mad and she knows your right.
-melissa
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