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the perfect guy
i found the perfect guy for me. i'm a christian girl, and he's a youth leader, we have the same sense of humor, he's totaly cute, and he's the sweetest guy i've ever met. the problem is that he's quite a bit older than me, and by the time i'm old enough to date him, he'll probably be married, because, well who wouldn't want to marry him? see, i'm only 14, and he's 20, but i think he likes me a little too. i'll find out for sure by tomarrow if he does, and add it on here. but he told me i was beautiful and stuff, so what should i do?
thanx for helping, i rate all 5's.
xoxo
sincerely,
Puppy Love
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if you dont want to go out with him then if he asks you on some dates then you say yes! dont try to do anything with him ilke kiss him or anything yet because yall might get to close for a 14 year old and a 20 year old! but i think if yall really like each other then it doesnt matter about the age difference!
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Well i dont think this is going to work for you, like i dont think you guys are going to go out.. or Anything like that, it's prob just a crush you are going to have nd thats all, hes to old for you and you still have ALOT to go thu so i bet you will find sombody else, i mean hes 20 thats so much of a differeence..
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Well, that is defintely a big age difference..
Maybe there is someone else out there for you, because like you said, by the time your old enough to date him, he might be married, or you might not like him anymore..
This might just be one of those little teenage crushes..
Like teenage girls have crushes celebrities, if you know what im saying
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It is very common for people to "fall in love" with teacher-figures...he's your youth pastor, right? And you're both Christians? You probably like the fact that he's a good Christian leader and is teaching you things that you really can apply to your life..however..getting in anything beyond a just friends relationship would be dangerous-for you, and for your youth pastor. You are under 18, and he is above it, meaning that this can be illegal! If the police found out, or if someone in the church found out, it would risk his reputation and his job! You, on the other hand, are still so young! You guys have such an enormous age difference..this guy isn't a teenager anymore, and he has a job! You, on the other hand, are either in middle or school or just starting high school. You guys won't be able to relate about much because you are at such different times of your life! Also, dating this guy risks you losing your good reputation or ending up with a broken heart. If you find out he likes you, please politely decline anything he asks you to do that could break the law.
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you said you're christian right? i go to church as well.. and what would you do if someone found out about this.. you just be thinkin about urself on this one.. i mean, what would happen if he did like u.. i mean, he would get in a lot of trouble.. you really don't need to get urself mixed with a guy that's 20.. im 15 and i think it would be awkward to be in a relationship with a 20 year.. also, think like.. okay.. this guy is 20 right, what is he thinkin if he's actually considering to be with a 14 year old??? Well, first i would defiantly pray about it.. ask God for the answer as well as these advice columns.But i would stay away from that situation.. you're probably really mature, but think of the consciquences.. it would be very hectic.. so, i wouldn't try to flirt with him.. because that will also probably cause problems.. just try to stay on a friendly basis, but don't let it go overboard..
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Well does sound like puppy love. If you find out he does like you what do you think you would do? The age difference isn't a big deal. But to be honest to be in a serious relationship I'd say maybe wait it out a bit longer. If you like him just keep talking and get to know him well.
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wait till you get a lil older and find out if you really like em or not!!!right now its just puppy love
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I think thats kind of a big gap. I wouldnt do that if i was u.. but thats just me.. i mean my friend is 14 and with a 17 yr.. thats already a big diff. i mean she's mature and he is too but still its a big diff. i wouldnt go for that and plus its illegal and if your catholic its probably against the religion they are very strict with there stuff!! sorry! but if you think its right then go for it!! Let me know cuz im very interested!! *trix*
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