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Over the past month or so, I have been cutting my arm. I never cut the inside of my arm near to my veins but on the other side. It started off as just a way of forgetting everything but now it has turned into something much deeper, that even I haven't figured out yet. What I am doing is hurting my friends very badly and leaving them feeling guilty and lost. They keep saying that they will go to a teacher and tell him and two friends already have. I know I am hurting them but I honestly can't help it. I don't want my family to find out and I am scared that if my friends go to the teacher then he will tell them. I have no idea what to do. I have tried other things as an alternative to cutting but they never help like cutting does. I know that before I think about stopping for good, I need to figure out what has caused me to do this. I am usually happy, flirtacious and confident but now I am always upset. I suspect that I am doing it because of various family issues but I think that it could be something else as well as that. I honestly do not know what to do anymore.
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next time you feel like cutting, put the knife or whatever youre using (i used a safety pin, but i dont know bout you) DOWN and try to remember what triggered the need to inflict pain. And i do think that if you want the problem to stop, you might wanna talk to your family about it. they arent going to disown you or anything, they're gonna want to help you.
and if that doesnt work, then you should maybe see your school guidance counselor. i talked to my aunt about my ordeal, and she helped me out a lot.. i no longer feel the need to cut myself to make me feel better. i suggest that you do the same.
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wow i think you need to go to a counselor or a shrink because there is obviously deeper problems involved... and if you like to cut yourself that is probably an actual disorder.. I mean do you actually like the "pain" cause if you do that it is a mental disorder
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that exact same thing happend to me and has still been going on. i kno that telling you that you should stop will not help any because i am sure you have gotten enough crap from people. but just remember how your friends think about it now... because if you continue, theyre just going to get more and more "concerned" and eventually angry at you... and well ive always been scared my parents would find out. then they did it was a long story, but basically i thought it was the end of my life. but reely, considering your not cutting your wrists (yet) just your arm, its not as bad. (not saying cutting at all is good) but well, i cant say much more then that w/o knoing a little more about your situation. if you want, feel free to email me BeYooTiFulBabe@netscape.net. i reelty think i could help because your like living out my life.
xO-sara
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I know how your friends feel. Ive been through the same thing ..ive had a friend thats cut themselves. It does hurt them seeing you hurt yourself. They are scared for you and just want to help you out. I know you dont want your family to find out but maybe if they know they can help you out. Thats what family is for right? to help you through things. I would tell you more on what to do but i dont really know what the issues are of why you are cutting yourself. i really hope i helped xoxo
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When I was cutting my friends threatened that if I didn't tell a teacher or another adult, they would. They also threatened our friendship, which meant a lot more to me than cutting. I still cut every once in a while, the most important this is to get past denial, and admit what you do, and that it's wrong, and you've done that. Now you need to get help. If you don't want your family to find out, the number to teen talk is 1-800-650-TALK, call it, it's anonymous. Guidance concelors will call home, mine did. I anonymously e-mailed the teacher, something that said, Okay, I'm in one of your classes, but I'm too embarassed to come to you and ask for help, so I'm sending an e-mail... I'll come right out and say it, I cut my wrists, and I know it's wrong, but I was wondering if you have any advice to stop (mine was longer, b/c I'd e-mailed her before, and I was like I'm the same person that asked you about drinking...) But, if you want an e-mail address she can't track, then make one up for yahoo, they are free, and don't register w/ your real name, because sometimes it'll automatically sign your name at the end, so sign up with something like 1st name smarty last name pants... something like that. Or if you feel comfortable enough to confront a teacher, then go ahead. My teacher found out it was me that did the e-mails, and in class she told me as long as I didn't sign my name to the e-mails, she wasn't allowed to turn me in. If you need any help with trying to stop cutting, then please ask. I'm recovering from it, yet I still cut. Here's a site that should help, [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
If that dosen't work, please let me know. It is a LOT of help!!!
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As hard as this situation is, you have already completed the first few steps to stopping that most people have the most trouble with. you recognize that you have a problem, and that you're hurting your friends, and yourself. you also know that you need to figure out what has made you do this. i can understand why you don't want your parents to find out, but they will be the ones that can help you the most. if you're under 18, you can't go to a doctor's office to get help alone-you need a parent with you, and i would highly suggest seeing someone. i think it would be best for you to tell your parents yourself what's going on, that way they know that you really do want help, and you really do know that you have a problem. talk to them about it, and tell them you want to see a psychiatrist, or someone professional who can help you figure out what's making you so upset. they will understand, and help you out there. in the mean time, to try and figure out what's bothering you, instead of cutting yourself, try writing in a journal. it doens't have to be on paper, it can be on the computer, an online journal, or whatever you want. but i often find that when i write my feelings down, a lot more comes out than i realized was in me, and i am more able to understand whats going on. after you write everything down, go back and read it, and see if you can figure something out from that. try that for a few days and see how it goes. even if it does work, and you don't feel like you need to cut yourself anymore, please still talk to your parents. you may not need to go see someone, but still talk to your parents. they are there to love and support you through good and bad times, and this is a time when you need them most. i hope this helped, and stay strong. you'll get through this. and be thankful that you have friends that care about you enough to that worried for you. you are very fortunate. keep me posted
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