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Flatly...oral sex
Okay. My boyfriend and I are thinking about going for the whole oral sex thing...and something about the whole subject really weirds me out. Like, I can't imagine giving a guy a blowjob, but it weirds me out even more to think of him going down on me.
For background, we've been together over 11 months, we've had sex, and we've usually kinda skipped over the oral issue. If it matters, I'm 17 and he's 18. I know I should just wait 'til I'm comfy with the whole idea, but I don't think I'll be comfy with it until I figure out what it is that's weirding me out. Anyone have any ideas?
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If i were you, id just try it, youll love it..and start ta do it more often!!!
-Hope i helped!
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HuMm..well be honest with him and tell him it makes you kinda weird. You dont have to do it! Honestly..if your comfortable enough to just have sex then thats fine! Dont sweat the small stuff!
x0x-dani
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well I'm not sure... but my friends weren't comfortable with it either, so there might be a few things bothering you.
lack of experience
the whole idea of a penis in your mouth
taste
doing it wrong
and there are other things too. But all I can say is Just Do IT... you'll get over it really fast that way. Try buying flavored condoms. And if you want... practice.
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I used to think that oral sex and just sex in general was absolutely disgusting. But let me tell you that your mind can change.
The only way to really get past the issue is to try it once, and if its not at all "comfy" then just let your partner know that you no longer want to continue. He should understand.
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Alright, I will give you my opinion on the situation. I have done it all but that because I don't feel that there is any respect behind giving a guy head. I don't like being 'looked down upon' by a guy, and I don't really feel the need to do it. They enjoy it, but if someone asks for it I just say I don't feel comfortable enough. As for you, if it doesn't seem right to you then be honest with him. You've been together quite a while, and shit if you can't be honest with him sexually then you must not communicate much. Hope that helps ~*_Laney_*~
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lol, i like this question. it's different. lol. Well, there could be a couple of things that weird you out about oral sex. First of all, maybe it weird you out because you are putting something in your mouth, and he is licking something that is used for pissing out of. lol. And there is the whole taste issue, which resally aint that bad ... i don't know the taste of a girl, maybe you can ask a guy. lol. It could just be a self esteem thing too. With sex it isn't like he's staring at your area, and with oral sex, it is, and that could freak you out a little. It's kinda like going out of the house and your wondering if your make up is okay. lol. weird example. It could be various things.
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If your not comftorable with it yet then dont do it. You could also just try it and see how u like it and if u dont then tell him that.
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Im sorry i think you screwed up already having sex. So giving oral should be nothing to you. Dont give yourself to every guy that likes you. And i know thats not what you did...11 months. Woop dee. theres no reason, you screwed up, so go ahead it cant get any worse.
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you should do something small at first yet pleasurfull just to see how it feels and how you like it? well hope this helped<3
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If you feel weird about it, maybe you just aren't ready. I'd just stick to what you usually do, and do Oral Sex when you're ready. If he's worth it, your boyfriend will be nice and wait. Good luck, and remember to never let boys do anything that makes you uncomfortable.
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If you're uncomfortable with it (giving OR receiving), you don't have to do it yet (or ever). If you're weirded out because penises seem "dirty," you can always do it in the shower. You can also start out practicing on his fingers - it's a major turn-on in itself. Also, contrary to popular opinion, you don't have to shave, although a bit of a trim might make things easier for him.
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It's going to be a bit odd having his penis in your mouth, maybe. Plus, it's kind of odd having him on top of you, but it's fun. Of course you should wait until you're comfy! ~*Jenni*~
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hmm its always uncomfortable fer oral sex but iif uve already had sex iit shouldnt be that bad...but only wait till YER ready fer iit good luck hun <3
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Hey =)
I was like you, you couldn't PAY me to do a blow job. However, my guy was really patient and nice about it and bought some of the flavored lube stuff and it made it SO much easier!! The going down on you part is awesome as well, just make sure to shower before, for obvious reasons LOL =)
If you guys have been together for that long (congrats also) then I don't forsee it as being a problem to do oral, espically since you've had sex already. Just do not do anything until you feel comfortable with it. The last thing you want to do it have oral sex and regret it.
Good luck!!
Em =)
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You're probably weirded out because oral sex isn't something we do instinctively; it isn't really natural. There's nothing wrong with it at all, but to a girl that has been raised in a society that thinks body functions are disgusting, the thought of it can be scary at first. Don't do it until you feel comfortable. It isn't something he NEEDS you to do, no matter what men say. It's just a perk, and if he's getting laid, there's no reason to rush into something you aren't ready for yet.
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if you already have sex with him its not the end of the world. Yay if he pisses in your mouth you can freak. But this is just what i am saying dont go to far you are 17 you could gets aid's or something dont ruin you life over sex
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If you don't want to do it, don't do it. If he won't accept that as a good enough reason tell him that you are prone to seizures (epilepsy) and that you're afraid you might have a seizure and end up biting it off. :) At 22, I still don't like doing it, so for the most part I just don't. No big deal, the guys don't complain and I make up for it in other ways.
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