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I am 18 years old and I will be 19 on the 3rd of December. I am also pregnant and still with the father. We have been together for more than a year and a half and plan to be married before April 2005.

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I'm 13/f, and I've been really sad lately. I'm in 8th grade, and for a while I had a lot of excitement in my life; I had my bat mitzvah during the summer, and I've been feeling that my life has been dull. I had been sad about my friends and guys, sad in general, especially at night. One night, I got so sad I cut myself...
I'm feeling depressed and I don't know what to do:(
-what do i do?-
*depressed

If you are starting to cut I suggest you find another sort of release. Start to write even if you can't; Paint even if you can't. Or just go in the back yard or whatever and scream your head off.
Life does go throug its ups and downs ands some of the downs seem like they will never end but trust me they do. You just have to find things worth living for. Even the unimportant things. Like waking up to a bird song or being able to diss your sucky teachers...whatever the reason there is plenty of them live.

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okay im about 125 lbs n i dont think im a fatty or anything but how can i lose wieght quickly and tone my body?

If you are 125 and anywhere from 5' 3" to 5' 9" you are perfect...as far as you need to go if you want to look better is to tone your body. What you can do, and its what I did, is got to a gym and work with weights. Now don't use a lot of weight and fewer reps. Its the other way around. Use a minimal weight and do more reps. Like for your arms...use a 10lb dumb bell and do 25 curls. Trust me it will burn at first but it will get you well tone within a few weeks.

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I have a new neighbor and shes reall cool, i wanted so things to bring up to talk about wit her? i just dont want any acward silences. Also do you no anything to do when we chill at my house?

Find out fave movies and what not...you can rent those then talk about them...music and what not. And as your friendship progresses you can talk about more serious things that include the trust factor.

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i want to lose 10 lbs in 3 months cuz on my bday i am geting money adn i want to buy clothes but i want to look cute in them i am 118 and i waer size 5 but i am not satisified.oh i am short i am like 5'3 ish.. My question for you is this: A) is that unrealistic? B) anyideas on how i could do that?

thanks a bunch

Hun that is unrealistic. You are the perfect size for your height. I'm a size seven normally but I am pregnant and when I weighed in normal I was 125. And I am 5' 6". If you loose anymore weight you can make yourself really sick. I've been through it and had a couple of weeks of bedrest to get better. Be careful, you are a perfect size.

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Hi, I'm 13 and 4 months and I havent ever gotten my period... :(. Anyway the last week-ish i've been noticing stuff and I think it may be coming soon. I am eating A LOT, like the equivilant of about 5 full meals a day. My skin is going from oily to dry to oily to dry and back to oily again, and I have more pimples than I've ever had before. My boobs are extremely tender too. Discharge isnt an issue, I've been having that all the time for like a year and a half, and it's the same as always.... what do you think? Might it be my time??
Ps- today i'm also a lil sick, like congested, but I think thats an outside issue, i dunno if it matters, oh well.
Help, i rate.

Some girls don't get their period until they are 17. Try asking your mom when she started hers and that may help you on when to expect it. But all girls are different.
All the other things going on is just a process of puberty. Your period wil come, no worries. Just enjoy the free time while you can.

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Hey, I have a gf, and she says she loves me, and we have been going out for about a week. The only times she says "I love you" is on the computer. I even say it when we are in person and she doesn't say it back... she has told me her feelings and she says she really loves me, and she is like crazy about me, but my question is: How come she won't say it back?

She might be scared of saying it for the wrong reasons. But don't worry, if you two have only been together a week let time take its course and she may come around to truly expressing her love or you may find out it wasn't forever after all.

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Okay. My boyfriend and I are thinking about going for the whole oral sex thing...and something about the whole subject really weirds me out. Like, I can't imagine giving a guy a blowjob, but it weirds me out even more to think of him going down on me.
For background, we've been together over 11 months, we've had sex, and we've usually kinda skipped over the oral issue. If it matters, I'm 17 and he's 18. I know I should just wait 'til I'm comfy with the whole idea, but I don't think I'll be comfy with it until I figure out what it is that's weirding me out. Anyone have any ideas?

I used to think that oral sex and just sex in general was absolutely disgusting. But let me tell you that your mind can change.
The only way to really get past the issue is to try it once, and if its not at all "comfy" then just let your partner know that you no longer want to continue. He should understand.

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my boy friend has been ubducted by the new game halo 2...he is obsessed! how can i get him back???

Heh. I know how you feel. I made the mistake of buying my fiance an X-Box for his birthday and now I recieve about 1/4th the attention I used to.
The best advice I can give you is talk to him and tell him how you feel. And if that doesn't work then find a hobby that takes up just as much time as he is taking away from you.

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ok, I was 12 whenever I first had sex...( I know Kinda young but...I was turning 13 soon) Well...it hurt SUPERSUPER bad but they say that after it hurts it's supposed to feel godd...but it didn't...it never once felt good...then the second time (i've only done it 2 times) it still didn't feel good..it kind hurt..adn once again NEVER once felt good?!?! whats wrong with me?!?!

Nothing is wrong with you, hun. It can hurt for a few more times before it ever feels normal or good.
I hurt for the first few times as well but now it is pretty much normal. But your body will go through a series of changes that may lead to good feeling sex or painful sex...
Truthfully it all kind of depends what time of the month you are at(like during ovulation, period, in between...).
Don't worry it is totally normal.

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