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A little advice please
Im falling in love with my best friend. I dont want to ruin our relationship, but i really want to be more than friends with her. We talked about it briefly, and she says she doesnt want to be, but she acts totally like she does. i dotn want to rush things, i just dont know if these feelings are true, or if i should be feeling them. help. im 18 m n shes 18 f
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If you really care about her, I think you would want to respect her feelings... and maybe someday she'll be ready to be more than just friends with you.
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Hey~umm..what I would do is like call her up and ask her and then talk about it, this is a "brief" sorta thing, you need to talk to her.
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listen hun.. this is comming from a 15 year old. Imin love with an 18 year old my self but he said im too young. And my parents no his.. we live beside eachother and he brings me to school everyday. We dont talk alot but maube you and her should about it. Talking is very good if you like someone. Ask her how she feels about things. Tell her straight out about how you really feel about her. Thats just how ur gonna haveta do it.
Tell her u really care about her.
Christine
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DON'T BE STUPID ......it'l ruin your friendship 4ever........we've all done it!
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hey,,well you should just come out and tell her how you feel about her...and that you understand if she just wants to stay frineds..but remember..respect her desision, she should know wuts best..well for her as of the moment anyway...but yea tell her..maybe it will work ..well good luck with it man..Peace! oh yea try not to let things become weird between you two..thats the only thing you should worry about if she says no..if she does say no..just act like it never happened and let things go back to normal k..peace out man
--PinoyBoi
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Well, I married my best friend, so, I guess that doesn't really help ;)<br>
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Give yourself time. She's already your friend, so you don't need to "play your cards" if you get my drift... just continue to be friends and build your friendship - if something happens, hey great... if not, you don't need to sweat it. Just try to balance your more intimate feelings for her with the more platonic ones and try to not let the scope of the relationship change too quickly, as sending a friendship like that spiralling out of control is usually an ugly thing.
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Girls are famous for their mixed signals. Females will flirt with anyone- I should know. It is a well known fact that people want others to be interested in them even if they may have no interest in pursuing a relationship.
If she really appears to be sincere, you can throw the idea out there in a manner where it is not obvious of your feelings. Maybe you could test the waters a bit, ask her if she is open to dating anyone at the present time. Inquire about her feelings- girls LOVE that.
It is very easy to have feelings for people close to you. I leave you with a couple of words of advice. Make sure you are willing to risk this friendship before you take a step foward. The results could be amazing, but you could also loose a friend.
Good luck to you,
Jeanette
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Okay. Your feelings might be true, and you certainly can't help whether or not you feel them. What you CAN do is listen to your best friend - regardless of what signals you think she is sending you, she's been verbally very clear: she does not want to be with you.
You're going to have to accept what she says and try to move on.
If, however, you remain confused and hopeful, then the only thing to do is talk to her. Let her know that her words don't seem to match her actions. Once you've had this conversation, you need to listen to what she says.
Just like you can't help your feelings, she can't help hers. It's an awkward situation, but you risk losing the friendship if you try to pressure her into liking you as more than a friend.
Good luck.
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Well, maybe she acts like she does just because she is so used to you and feels she can be herself whenever shes around you. So maybe what your feeling around her is her flirting when she really doesnt realize that she's doing it. Just keep being yourself around her and tell me what she said to you after you told her you liked her. Good luck and I hope she will eventually like you! -Kayla
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if she def sed no wen u askd her then leave it. grls always flirt wiv their male friends.
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It's normal to like your best friend... If she doesn't want to be more than just friends, just stay friends for a while and see how it goes...
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